Your leg was amputated what would you do? what is the reaction of the society towards people with permanent disability?

[Chief]

God forbids, someone looses his leg due to an accident. How is he supposed to deal with it ? I know that there are three stages: denial, refusal and then at the end acceptance. Anyone with an experience here or knows someone with a similar experience??

On the other hand, how do you look or perceive a person with a permanent disability ?

Thank you for sharing

[Danny Z]

I would never talk to somebody whose leg is amputated, yee ma32oul, no never!!
Bisharafak ya Chief shou hall sou2al, if the leg has to be amputated what's the other choice, die because somebody is afraid of society? Of course it is better to keep a leg but if you can't then you can't.

[Chief]

Originally Posted by Danny Z

I would never talk to somebody whose leg is amputated, yee ma32oul, no never!!
Bisharafak ya Chief shou hall sou2al, if the leg has to be amputated what's the other choice, die because somebody is afraid of society? Of course it is better to keep a leg but if you can't then you can't.

the question is how would you adapt and what are the scenarios that you might face in the society.

[Saladin]

Today I saw a paralyzed young man unable to move both his legs and arms. He was with his father in a wheel chair and his father was pushing him around. He was about my age. I started thinking about what he has and is going to miss in life. And I started imagining what would happen to me if I were to be in his chair, I couldn't bear the thought of it. I really felt sorry for him, it made me appreciate the blessings I usually take for granted.

[Nayla]

It's hard to deal with such accident cz the person will have to change all his habits and his way of life. Some people could be very shocked and can't face their new state of health.

Personally, I've never be in such a case but I was in touch with many people cz I had to work with them for ome time.
I can tell you that people with permanent disability I've met in the specialized center are the most human people I had ever met in my whole life.
They are caring, sensitive and, the most important thing, always smiling, in spite of their disability, and I learned too much from them.

If some day I had some accident and I had to lose some part, I'd go directly to a specialized center where they have many qualified monitors who can help me to accept my new case.

[lady_forever]

In Australia i all handicaped or abnormalities have their facilties wheel chairs run on its own like a car and everything is easy for them to move into malls wherever they wanna go and they can also work and feel useful..i admire that in this country handicaped behave like normal people no one pities them cause they r so on the contrary they let them handle themselves and feel worthy...now i am sure to have an arm amputated or leg isnt at all easy and requires lots of phsical and mental assistance but as u said they will accept the idea one day though its very hard...i know the daughter of a friend of mine she is handicaped born so i feel she has no problem with her disabilty but i reckon if someone wasn't born with disabilty it will be soo hard for him to adapt with his new life..i admire people who dont pity themselves or feel useless who work and make their lives worthy...

[Chief]

Ive been doing some research since yesterday about it and after reading your replies, its obvious that the most important phase is the acceptance phase. If the person is refusing to go consult a specialist, how can his family and friends help ?

[Nayla]

Originally Posted by Chief

Ive been doing some research since yesterday about it and after reading your replies, its obvious that the most important phase is the acceptance phase. If the person is refusing to go consult a specialist, how can his family and friends help ?

At the first stage of the accident, it's normal to refuse seeing any specialist.

If he's not at the first stage, ya3ne he refuses all kind of help, the family should ask the help of the physician who treated him after the accident.

The patient will do what his physician will ask him to do.

If he refuses to go to the physician, call the physician and ask him to call the patient for an urgent consultation.

[Faithful]

It is hard Chief, very hard to accept this new situation..... specially consulting a specialist heyk from the beginning... coz he is refusing the idea min asslo, he is refusing being different than all other people.

I think family can help him a lot Chief:

First: they have to show him love and care because he will need it a lot.

Second: Do never feel pity on him and especially do not show him this 7aram famous look ... he will get hurt more than u imagine

Third: Take care of him but do no exagerate ... ya3ni treat him as all the family members ... he is not different from anyone else, even if he is paralysed... he shouldn't be treated differently.

Forth: He has to pass the denial phase first to be able later to accept his situation... don't push him to get over it ... he needs to cry, to get angry, to shout, to hate himself, to hate everyone around him, to pity himself, to be alone most of the time ... those reactions are inevitable... so give him the time he needs to get over it.

Fifth: and i think this is the most important think to do, is to pray for him so he can pass these hard times, to accept his situation and trying to continue living as all other people...Believe me praying do miracles

At the end, life goes on... he can not change the past, he just needs to accept his present.... let him always remember that people will look at him the same way he looks at himself..... so better feeling good about himself and dont let people hurt him.

[LFPM]

In my opinion whoever is handicap deserves it, in a good or bad way.
After all it's God's will... that's why he's like that. right?

So there must be a reason for him to be like that even a punishment or a reward...

Therefore, and in both cases you can't be sorry for him, being sorry for him is against God's will, it's like objecting his decision.