Would you marry a non-Lebanese?

[Red Phoenix]

Originally Posted by Faithful

The list is long Red Phoenix ....i am pretty sure you have a good idea about it

if i had a clue, then why would i be asking ?

so come on plz, humour me with an answer

i'm intrigued and interested

u are always nice, so dont worry u wont offend, u'll manage :)

[Hye4Lebanon]

Originally Posted by Sirius

I do not mind marrying a non-Lebanese at all. My current girlfriend is not Lebanese (far from it in cultural and geographical terms) and granted that our relationship stays strong, I would not hesitate in popping the question (don't tell her yet ). All what matters to me is whether or not we get along and understand each other's needs and wants.

Good for you Sirius...

Remember, to make it last for years, there should always be a "Sirius" time and "Mrs Sirius" time. And that has to be accepted by both.

Learn to grow, learn from one another and be together when you need each other the most.

If she is your best friend first and your wife second...that will surely work for you.

I am sure the wedding will be at some beach at sunset overlooking the waves - oh, and by the way, some of us from the board accept your invitation and would love to attend

[Dalzi]

Originally Posted by Hye4Lebanon

Good for you Sirius...

Remember, to make it last for years, there should always be a "Sirius" time and "Mrs Sirius" time. And that has to be accepted by both.

Learn to grow, learn from one another and be together when you need each other the most.

If she is your best friend first and your wife second...that will surely work for you.

I am sure the wedding will be at some beach at sunset overlooking the waves - oh, and by the way, some of us from the board accept your invitation and would love to attend

It would work for you because you're very westernized (I don't mean that in a negative way).

If it works for one, it doesn't mean it'll work for all. The majority of us end up regretting it because we have a different mentality to those from other cultures especially when it comes to values.

The "Good for you" is cause for a riot.

[Hye4Lebanon]

Originally Posted by Dalzi

It would work for you because you're very westernized (I don't mean that in a negative way).

If it works for one, it doesn't mean it'll work for all. The majority of us end up regretting it because we have a different mentality to those from other cultures especially when it comes to values.

The "Good for you" is cause for a riot.

It's cool Dalzi,

I agree, again it all comes down to you AND your significant other.

[Dalzi]

Originally Posted by Hye4Lebanon

It's cool Dalzi,

I agree, again it all comes down to you AND your significant other.

And the 'best friend' you mentioned is spot on. You can marry someone you could consider a best friend; in fact you shouldn't be marrying him/her if s/he isn't considered a best friend. Some people jump to marriage without giving themselves the time to understand whether the other is someone they can spend 200 years with.

[Xena]

Originally Posted by Dalzi

Have your parents tried to enlarge a picture of him and hang it in the living room? It might work.

Many Lebanese, like other mortals, happen to be very racist especially when it comes to colour. If she marries from Bangladesh, they think it's a joke and laugh when you mention him even if he's "The Lord" of Bangladesh. With Belgium you're fine :D

hahaha no no they didn't enlarge a picture of him :p

Yeah that s true... but some people still don't think that it's a "good thing" and start giving you the strangest arguments like
-They re cold people they dont show their emotions like lebanese men do ( As if they ever met my man)
-Their marriages never last ( coming sometimes from people who are really very unhappily married)
-They're not like us (leh ne7na kif?)
-They dont give an importance to the family (that's weird because i still havent seen the difference between how important my family is to me and how important his family is to him!)
-your children will not speak lebanese and will not be emotionally attached to lebanon ( that depends on whether i will teach them to speak lebanese or not...and on whether i will make them love lebanon or not)
-etc...etc...etc...

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Xena

Well my husband-to-be is Belgian so i surely don't mind marrying a non-lebanese.

However i must admit that i always hear annoying critics coming from people in lebanon about my man's nationality... my parents always have to take my defense whenever someone knows that i'll be marrying a belgian... I guess in lebanon it's more accepted that a lebanese man marries a non lebanese woman than a lebanese woman marrying a non lebanese man ...

I was wondering about it too actually, that it must be more accepted for men to have non-Lebanese women than the other way round...patriarchal society?

Originally Posted by Lallous

Hey, not to play troublemakers, but let's add some spice to the debate.

Would you rather marry a non-Lebanese that has the same sect as you or rather a Lebanese with a different sect of yours ?

I didnt want to bring this question into discussion But of course whatever you wish to discuss guys:)

Originally Posted by Sirius

I do not mind marrying a non-Lebanese at all. My current girlfriend is not Lebanese (far from it in cultural and geographical terms) and granted that our relationship stays strong, I would not hesitate in popping the question (don't tell her yet ). All what matters to me is whether or not we get along and understand each other's needs and wants.

Good luck

Originally Posted by Kumari

the creepy thing is that after 22 years of marriage she filed for divorce, took his money and left.. And the only reason that she gave is that she needed to discover herself!!! He did not ask her for anything so obedience is not an issue here.

If you raise a cat, you would not have the heart to throw it in the street after 6 months..

hmm if she left like this then he shouldnt regret she leaving, he should regret only that she left so late....but didnt he know well her wife before marrying her?

[Dalzi]

Originally Posted by Xena

hahaha no no they didn't enlarge a picture of him :p

Yeah that s true... but some people still don't think that it's a "good thing" and start giving you the strangest arguments like
-They re cold people they dont show their emotions like lebanese men do ( As if they ever met my man)
-Their marriages never last ( coming sometimes from people who are really very unhappily married)
-They're not like us (leh ne7na kif?)
-They dont give an importance to the family (that's weird because i still havent seen the difference between how important my family is to me and how important his family is to him!)
-your children will not speak lebanese and will not be emotionally attached to lebanon ( that depends on whether i will teach them to speak lebanese or not...and on whether i will make them love lebanon or not)
-etc...etc...etc...

Well, it's basically none of their business... Europeans are not much different to us in general... especially those living in Europe. Many of them value marriage and family. You can't live with someone who has a different mentality to yours. Common beliefs and values are important, just as differences can be healthy and exciting :D If you're too similar it's boring and if you're too different it's not gonna work. That's how it is with marriages...

[LEBANESE-CIA]

Eh I would If i want to, , love has no nationality no religion no race.
you choice is a matter of personal taste.

[shreek]

well i already did marry a non-Lebanese, my wife is a rabid FPM follower...