Would you marry a non-Lebanese?

[Red Phoenix]

Originally Posted by Faithful

It's not about nationality, it's about traditions, culture and education.
It's about understanding how lebanese men think and accept to share them their needs. I know that some foreign girls are able to do it, but unfortunately the majority of the lebanese men are hard to understand and hard to satisfy.... this is how they were raised.
I think Lebanese Girls know how to deal with them better than foreigner ones .... just because they were raised together in the same environment, they got the same education.... they are more patient with them

I repeat, it really depends on the person... if the man has typical lebanese mentality, i swear to God none of any foreigners girl can handle him lol ... ma bye7emlou

so, what are those famous hard to deal with lebanese male traits then ?

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Faithful

.... this is how they were raised.

you have a very good point here! Mommy's lil spoiled boy, even if they are way past any boyhood they still remain mommy's lil spoiled boys:D

I think Lebanese Girls know how to deal with them better than foreigner ones ...

maybe, not always...it really depends

I repeat, it really depends on the person... if the man has typical lebanese mentality, i swear to God none of any foreigners girl can handle him lol ... ma bye7emlou

Dont swear on God if God is precious for you, because you are wrong in this, have many counter examples:p

[Red Phoenix]

Originally Posted by Faithful

It's not about nationality, it's about traditions, culture and education.
It's about understanding how lebanese men think and accept to share them their needs. I know that some foreign girls are able to do it, but unfortunately the majority of the lebanese men are hard to understand and hard to satisfy.... this is how they were raised.
I think Lebanese Girls know how to deal with them better than foreigner ones .... just because they were raised together in the same environment, they got the same education.... they are more patient with them

I repeat, it really depends on the person... if the man has typical lebanese mentality, i swear to God none of any foreigners girl can handle him lol ... ma bye7emlou

Originally Posted by Salome

you have a very good point here! Mommy's lil spoiled boy, even if they are way past any boyhood they still remain mommy's lil spoiled boys:D




maybe, not always...it really depends




Dont swear on God if God is precious for you, because you are wrong in this, have many counter examples:p

and here lies the paradox girls

u lebanese girls raise ur sons and shape them in the image of their fathers (ur husband or ur dad)

that's the gist of it

kinda of a looping cycle

most independent women are most controlling of their sons when they raise them

conforming women just do what the guy orders

at any rate, for a lebanese woman, having a mama's boy is her pride really since she can't have her pride by herself unless she risks bordering on scizophrenia in this old school society, and no wonder why many new women youth are lost and confused now in that respect

[Faithful]

Originally Posted by Salome

Dont swear on God if God is precious for you, because you are wrong in this, have many counter examples:p

lol Ok i won't swear on God because God is precious for me

But Salome i was not exaggerating in my previous post........ Do you really know what it means to have the Typical Lebanese mentality?

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Faithful

lol Ok i won't swear on God because God is precious for me

But Salome i was not exaggerating in my previous post. Do you really know what is the Typical Lebanese mentality?

I have a good idea about it, but I dont know if you mean now just negatives? Because of course nobody wants to marry a typical @sshole right? Regardless of Lebanese or not...

[Faithful]

Originally Posted by Salome

I have a good idea about it, but I dont know if you mean now just negatives? Because of course nobody wants to marry a typical @sshole right? Regardless of Lebanese or not...

Having a typical lebanese mentality doesnt meant being an ***** lol ... it's not what i meant at all .....Many of them are really great ....
All what i meant is that having the typical lebanse mentality makes a person very hard to understand and hardest to live with specially if his lover was not lebanese.... just because she is not used to it,...... she will find it hard to adapt to his way of thinking...... IMO for a foreigner it's hardly reached.

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Faithful

Having a typical lebanese mentality doesnt meant being an ***** lol ... it's not what i meant at all .....Many of them are really great ....
All what i meant is that having the typical lebanse mentality makes a person very hard to understand and hardest to live with specially if his lover was not lebanese.... just because she is not used to it,...... she will find it hard to adapt to his way of thinking...... IMO for a foreigner it's hardly reached.

sure I also didnt mean that way:) was wondering only if you mean the negative things... actually I dont have statistics or polls about it:D so I dont know if what you say is really so for most of the Lebanese men, maybe, but then again there are many exceptions

[fado]

Here are some of the reasons why i prefer to marry a Lebanese:

1-If i marry lets say a Swed i won't be able to give my children the Lebanese citizenship.
2-Even if i live abroad, i want someday to own a house in Lebanon, where i can come and visit every summer and probably live in when i retire.
3-I want my children to be Lebanized, i want to teach them lebanese, raise them the lebanese way, take them to Lebanon every summer, that would be a problem with a non-lebanese.
4-I already live far away from Lebanon, working with Sweeds and speaking Swedish all day, the last thing i want to do is come home to another Swedish person, at least at the end of the day i want to go home and be Lebanese, talk lebanese, watch lebanese tv and have my husband enjoying them with me instead of sitting there metel el atrash bel zaffe.
5-Maybe culture is not such a big deal but trust me a relationship is hard enough with someone from your own culture, the last thing i need is dealing with cultural problems.
This is what comes to mind right now...

I am not saying i would never ever marry someone non-lebanese, you never know i might have fallen deeply in love with a swedish man and married him but i cant help it im not drawn to non-lebanese men and thank God i have found my lovely lebanese soon-to-be fiance

[Salome]

Originally Posted by fado

Here are some of the reasons why i prefer to marry a Lebanese:

1-If i marry lets say a Swed i won't be able to give my children the Lebanese citizenship.
2-Even if i live abroad, i want someday to own a house in Lebanon, where i can come and visit every summer and probably live in when i retire.
3-I want my children to be Lebanized, i want to teach them lebanese, raise them the lebanese way, take them to Lebanon every summer, that would be a problem with a non-lebanese.
4-I already live far away from Lebanon, working with Sweeds and speaking Swedish all day, the last thing i want to do is come home to another Swedish person, at least at the end of the day i want to go home and be Lebanese, talk lebanese, watch lebanese tv and have my husband enjoying them with me instead of sitting there metel el atrash bel zaffe.
5-Maybe culture is not such a big deal but trust me a relationship is hard enough with someone from your own culture, the last thing i need is dealing with cultural problems.
This is what comes to mind right now...

I am not saying i would never ever marry someone non-lebanese, you never know i might have fallen deeply in love with a swedish man and married him but i cant help it im not drawn to non-lebanese men and thank God i have found my lovely lebanese soon-to-be fiance

Thats pretty realistic how you described it, am sure many Lebanese do this who live abroad...especially if you were brought up in a Lebanese culture, and are strongly attached to your identity

The case might be more complicated (?) if one has parents from both Lebanese and non-Lebanese background, or someone who lived all his/her life outside Lebanon...am just guessing in such case we find more people who will marry a non-Lebanese

[LebanonUSA]

If I get married again, she won't be Lebanese... yalli b jarreb l mjarrab, b koun 3a2lo mkharrab.

Yalla, let the LebanonUSA bashing/hating begin