Would you marry a non-Lebanese?

[Faithful]

Originally Posted by freemind

I never want to get married to start with; I don't trust myself, how could i trust someone?

What if this someone was a Lebanese hypocrite liar woman?

No thx

You have a serious problem here ... Trust is the key of any relation , better not to get into a relation yes, it will be a disaster if you dont trust urself first neither ur partner

Back to the subject:
As for me i think it really depends on the person... I may say now that i prefer to marry a lebanese guy because we have the same culture, we can communicate better maybe, laugh at the same jokes, discuss same politics, have the same morals and traditions, we have the same background maybe ...I agree that sharing the same culture and traditions can really make things easier, but all this may be not enough if my partner and I don't share true love and friendship and we are not able to understand the other's needs or we don't even share the same vision concerning our future.... That is more important to me.... You can find million of persons that share you the same culture and same traditions but few of them can share u your life, love and your future.... and this person can be found all around the world not only in lebanon.

It really depends on what a person wants and what he needs... many lebanese people don't appreciate the lebanese mentality so they prefer to find their love abroad. ....Even though the majority of them are divorced ... but still we can find the right person anywhere at any place..... ni7na w 7azna

[Red Phoenix]

Originally Posted by freemind

I never want to get married to start with; I don't trust myself, how could i trust someone?

What if this someone was a Lebanese hypocrite liar woman?

No thx

u do drive a valid point somehow

what if she's not lebanese ? not by identity and not even by behavior ?

isn't it possible to marry an acceptable nice none schizophrenic foreign girl ?

(no one is perfect but u get the idea)

[Red Phoenix]

Originally Posted by Faithful

You have a serious problem here ... Trust is the key of any relation , better not to get into a relation yes, it will be a disaster if you dont trust urself first neither ur partner

Back to the subject:
As for me i think it really depends on the person... I may say now that i prefer to marry a lebanese guy because we have the same culture, we can communicate better maybe, laugh at the same jokes, discuss same politics, have the same morals and traditions, we have the same background maybe ...I agree that sharing the same culture and traditions can really make things easier, but all this may be not enough if my partner and I don't share true love and friendship and we are not able to understand the other's needs or we don't even share the same vision concerning our future.... That is more important to me.... You can find million of persons that share you the same culture and same traditions but few of them can share u your life, love and your future.... and this person can be found all around the world not only in lebanon.

It really depends on what a person wants and what he needs... many lebanese people don't appreciate the lebanese mentality so they prefer to find their love abroad. ....Even though the majority of them are divorced ... but still we can find the right person anywhere at any place..... ni7na w 7azna

nice, calm and positive as always ;)

[shadow1]

As the old folks in my hometown say: زوان بلادنا ولا قمح الصليبي

[Salome]

Admins, thanks for adding the poll...but why nobody is voting? Cmon dont be shy:D

Originally Posted by freemind

I never want to get married to start with; I don't trust myself, how could i trust someone?

What if this someone was a Lebanese hypocrite liar woman?

No thx

Sure you are not forced to do anything, you can choose to not to get married, you can choose to change your mind later, when maybe you are also changed...but certainly I am not advocating for getting married in first place, I just want to see some point of views on the matter...

Just one comment, of course there are Lebanese hypocrite liar women (and men), society encourages it, BUT this is not exclusive, dont think you wont find liars elsewhere

Originally Posted by Faithful

You have a serious problem here ... Trust is the key of any relation , better not to get into a relation yes, it will be a disaster if you dont trust urself first neither ur partner

Back to the subject:
As for me i think it really depends on the person... I may say now that i prefer to marry a lebanese guy because we have the same culture, we can communicate better maybe, laugh at the same jokes, discuss same politics, have the same morals and traditions, we have the same background maybe ...I agree that sharing the same culture and traditions can really make things easier, but all this may be not enough if my partner and I don't share true love and friendship and we are not able to understand the other's needs or we don't even share the same vision concerning our future.... That is more important to me.... You can find million of persons that share you the same culture and same traditions but few of them can share u your life, love and your future.... and this person can be found all around the world not only in lebanon.

It really depends on what a person wants and what he needs... many lebanese people don't appreciate the lebanese mentality so they prefer to find their love abroad. ....Even though the majority of them are divorced ... but still we can find the right person anywhere at any place..... ni7na w 7azna

hmm about divorce abroad, you see that happenning often because there it is easy to divorce...would this be the case in Lebanon, you would see the same divorce rate or even higher....have to say rare are those marriages which would last had they have the chance nevertheless to divorce (I know to your face everybody tells they are perfectly happy, but you dont need to believe everything what they say)

Okay, dont know if you agree with me, in Lebanon probably there is a small chance to meet foreigners from various background, with whom you can build a common future with, and not just passing friendships...so I really wonder my question is relevant only for those who live outside Lebanon?

[Hye4Lebanon]

Originally Posted by freemind

I never want to get married to start with; I don't trust myself, how could i trust someone?

What if this someone was a Lebanese hypocrite liar woman?

No thx

Sorry but Lebanese men are by far bigger liars and hypocrites than Lebanese women.

Though you have a point, if you cant trust yourself, then perhaps you are not a good fit to get married.

[Hye4Lebanon]

Originally Posted by Faithful

...I agree that sharing the same culture and traditions can really make things easier, but all this may be not enough if my partner and I don't share true love and friendship and we are not able to understand the other's needs or we don't even share the same vision concerning our future.... That is more important to me.... You can find million of persons that share you the same culture and same traditions but few of them can share u your life, love and your future.... and this person can be found all around the world not only in lebanon....

I agree,

Though being Lebanese alone does not make you a candidate, it may have an advantage over other elements in the chemistry - if you are also Lebanese.

[Red Phoenix]

Originally Posted by shadow1

As the old folks in my hometown say: زوان بلادنا ولا قمح الصليبي

nice

but what the heck does it mean ?

;)

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Hye4Lebanon

I agree,

Though being Lebanese alone does not make you a candidate, it may have an advantage over other elements in the chemistry - if you are also Lebanese.

Thanks for your refreshing thoughts:D There is hope out there:D

But since you dont live in Lebanon, I still wonder if this is a requirement in order to think this way

[Hye4Lebanon]

Originally Posted by Salome

But since you dont live in Lebanon, I still wonder if this is a requirement in order to think this way

Of course living abroad you are exposed to other cultures. However, there are many Lebanese men who chose to come to Lebanon to pick a wife - at least that is what I was told.