Would you marry a non-Lebanese? - The Orange Room

Salome

Tell us whether you would consider marrying a non-Lebanese? Why or why not? Or on what this could depend on? Especially someone from a different culture?

Admins, could you please add a poll with the following options?

A - Yes, I have no problem with it

B - It depends on...(explain)

C - No, I can relate to Lebanese only

D - I don't know

Hye4Lebanon

She can be Lebanese, or non-Lebanese...

Remember, you have to be best friends first, then a happy couple. Not the other way around.

Salome

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Originally Posted by Hye4Lebanon

She can be Lebanese, or non-Lebanese...

Remember, you have to be best friends first, then a happy couple. Not the other way around.

That you have these views, plays a role that you live outside Lebanon?

Hye4Lebanon

there is some truth to that...

If you live in Leb all your life and do not have the opportunity to meet someone non-Lebanese, then I suppose your chances of marrying someone non lebanese are pretty slim. Opposite is also true.

If you do however meet someone, you are marrying him/her and not the family. There are a few who marry for the wrong reasons and that should not be the case.

Being Lebanese is not perfect. But enjoying and respecting the values of the significant other is :)

Salome

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Originally Posted by Hye4Lebanon

there is some truth to that...

If you live in Leb all your life and do not have the opportunity to meet someone non-Lebanese, then I suppose your chances of marrying someone non lebanese are pretty slim. Opposite is also true.

If you do however meet someone, you are marrying him/her and not the family. There are a few who marry for the wrong reasons and that should not be the case.

Being Lebanese is not perfect. But enjoying and respecting the values of the significant other is :)

A few?? lol there are many both in Lebanon and elsewhere, thats why you see so many divorces...if it was easy in Lebanon you would see also a divorce boom...

Great, so you are on good way becoming a global citizen:) however you wouldnt have any identity issues if you married a non-Lebanese, lets say from a very different culture...who is not religious, and does not share the traditions you have etc...?

Hye4Lebanon

My view is, you marry to share the rest of your life with a person you love, care and enjoy. That person will be the father/mother of your child or children. That person will be your best friend.

The divorces happen for many reasons. Obviously in Lebanon is sort of Taboo, but personally it should not be. If the 2 are not getting along because they initially got married for the wrong reasons, like arranged marriages, or whatever the case may be....they should seperate and move on. Both will be happier...rather than stay miserable with each other.

Relegion should not be a show stopper nor a push for marriage.

Traditions is another factor. If you are not into the Asian culture, or Asian tradition, then perhaps the Asian man/woman may not tickle you fancy in the first place.

Besides, in this day and age, where the world is actually "smaller" and everything is within reach at your fingertips...all the opportunities are endless.

What attracts you first?

Salome

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Originally Posted by Hye4Lebanon

Besides, in this day and age, where the world is actually "smaller" and everything is within reach at your fingertips...all the opportunities are endless.

Yes if you live outside Lebanon, especially in some western liberal country, indeed you have many opportunities, since most probably you will find people from various cultures at a time at the same place....hail to the globalization:D

If the poll is added we can see the opinions in percentages...I have a vague idea about the outcome, lets see if am right

BOILER

There's a reason why most lebanese living outside the country tend to marry Lebanese also.

Salome

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Originally Posted by BOILER

There's a reason why most lebanese living outside the country tend to marry Lebanese also.

And what is that reason?

freemind

I never want to get married to start with; I don't trust myself, how could i trust someone?

What if this someone was a Lebanese hypocrite liar woman?

No thx