is it worth it?

[strikingbeauty]

sometimes, Life really does hit you in the face. It can hit so hard to a point a leaves a bruise or knock you down. if you're strong, you get up back on your feet fight it and move on, but if you're weak you might take decisions that would end up hurting you more than you are already hurt or even vanish you ( which can leave a huge scar for the people around you)

as a new member in this forum, i am sorry to start a thread that can be a little depressing. some of you might have gone through a similar situation that i just went through for the first time in my life. so i am sorry if i re open any wounds to any of you.

just this morning, i got an email only to find out its carrying horrible news. a gorgeous young man who happens to be a relative of mine committed suicide. reason is: " having problems in his marriage life". i got so angry, i got angry at him!! he drove himself in a canyon and killed himself. why would u do that? are you that weak? or are you insane? You kill yourself because you are having problems with your wife?! didnt you think of your two toddlers? they are going to grow up without a father! when they ask about you, they are gonna tell them you killed yourself. how do you think that would make them feel? well first thing that would pop in their mind is " daddy never loved us or he would have never left us alone." you're wife cheated on you? so what? you kill yourself? is she worth your life? " you let your mom and dad down. you let your brothers down. what have you done?

my friend, money comes and goes. women come and go. men come and go. everything comes and goes except for one thing... one thing that goes and never comes back... "your life".

for the rest... do you have suicidal thoughts? you think its a joke? i did.. until now.
help and advice those who you feel are weak enough to stand back up on their feet and fight for their own life.

[Rors]

Welcome to the forum, and sorry for your loss.
Very important topic indeed. You think you know people around you, you feel safe, until it hits home. I think if we look out for the signs and address them correctly, much of the damage could be avoided.

[LebaneseGaL]

Originally Posted by strikingbeauty

sometimes, Life really does hit you in the face. It can hit so hard to a point a leaves a bruise or knock you down. if you're strong, you get up back on your feet fight it and move on, but if you're weak you might take decisions that would end up hurting you more than you are already hurt or even vanish you ( which can leave a huge scar for the people around you)

as a new member in this forum, i am sorry to start a thread that can be a little depressing. some of you might have gone through a similar situation that i just went through for the first time in my life. so i am sorry if i re open any wounds to any of you.

just this morning, i got an email only to find out its carrying horrible news. a gorgeous young man who happens to be a relative of mine committed suicide. reason is: " having problems in his marriage life". i got so angry, i got angry at him!! he drove himself in a canyon and killed himself. why would u do that? are you that weak? or are you insane? You kill yourself because you are having problems with your wife?! didnt you think of your two toddlers? they are going to grow up without a father! when they ask about you, they are gonna tell them you killed yourself. how do you think that would make them feel? well first thing that would pop in their mind is " daddy never loved us or he would have never left us alone." you're wife cheated on you? so what? you kill yourself? is she worth your life? " you let your mom and dad down. you let your brothers down. what have you done?

my friend, money comes and goes. women come and go. men come and go. everything comes and goes except for one thing... one thing that goes and never comes back... "your life".

for the rest... do you have suicidal thoughts? you think its a joke? i did.. until now.
help and advice those who you feel are weak enough to stand back up on their feet and fight for their own life.

Really sorry for your loss ...
No words can describe the situation his family is going to be in ... It will be unbelieveable for some time ... but .. there's always a but ... Even if the reason given was "family problems" or " marriage problems" .. I believe there is much more than that..I believe this man had something secret, maybe he had psychological issues that drove him to commit suicide & either he wasnt aware of his situation or he didnt seek any help and refuge !
I know .. it's horrible & irresponsible to do such a thing , specially when there are children around, and it would affect their lives later on ... maybe they would go through a huge shock .. but in my opinion ... suicide has far more deep reasons that are never revealed ... and after all they can never be known because the person is gone!
God help his family and relatives.

[Faithful]

I am so sorry for your loss strikingbeauty and welcome to the forum.
It's a very sad story indeed... 2alla yse3id 2ahlo w 3aylto ...... never thought about suicide and i will never do ... because as u said nothing in this world is worth to take away my life because of it ... even if the whole world hurted me and is against me ... this is my life and i will keep on it..... but this needs courage a lot of it ... because when someone is deeply hurt ... when he feels lost, lonely and stabbed in the back... when he feels that all what he did went in vain ... his heart is broken ... his proud is taken ... he think his life worth nothing ... his self-esteem will vanish day after day .... and i think he will hate himself ... he looses faith and hope which can help him to see the light somewhere inside all his difficulties ... he becomes very weak so he cannot control his mind anymore .... he can easily commit suicide .... i really think that anyone who commits suicide is not in his normal situation.
My his soul rest in peace ... and may God help his family

[Zouxi]

very touching story indeed

[strikingbeauty]

Thank you all for your condolences. May his soul rest in peace.
Life is beautiful every one. just look at it from a different perspective if you are feeling down. you will see a whole different point of view for your existance. Yes, Life is so beautiful.

[Frisbeetarian]

I am sorry for your lose.

Even though someone might have obligations (like kids to support), psychological problems can really weight on you, they can make life seem like a ton of bricks, always to carry, for days, months, years. A burden, than ends up eating you, until you decide to vanish. Some pshychological issue can really rain down hell on your ease of mind, and render you unstable for vast periods of time. I kind of have an idea, because im waging a loosing battle against my mood swings. And they really end up wreacking havoc on my life.

Sometimes you just cant take it anymore and are hanging by a thread.

[lady_forever]

i feel so sorry to hear about that and it is really frustrating to know how many people comitt suicide due to strong depression or severe pain that they can no longer take and rather prefer to end their lives thinking will solve the pain ..many times i felt the same but thought what the hell i should fight back i should overcome my hurdles and live for my own kids and i did i overcome all the sorrow i am happy i did and feel sorry for the ones who didn't...hope he rest in peace and give strength to his parents to overcome the misery..i feel angry that he ended his life but i can't judge his do's as you said in your thread life is soo precious to end it no matter