Why do you want to get married?

[Salome]

Ok now I think wedding season is coming, myself am also invited to an upcoming wedding, I see some of you talking about getting engaged/married, maybe some of you are already newly wed, or just planning, daydreaming, wishing for it...either way, why do you want to get married?

Some common arguments which came into my mind:

out of big looove because you think you found the one and only
your parents/society awaits from you to do it finally
you can not be with him/her otherwise
the girl is pregnant
he is rich enough
you want kids and therefore you need/wants to get married
you are desperate still not being married while all your friends are and even your little sis is
you think marriage bounds and strengthens the love with your partner
etc etc.....

I am interested to hear your reasons and ideas!

[Nasser]

I am 19 , and I don't want to get married yet :P , and I won't get married until I finish studies and get a job.

[zodiac]

Originally Posted by Salome

Ok now I think wedding season is coming, myself am also invited to an upcoming wedding, I see some of you talking about getting engaged/married, maybe some of you are already newly wed, or just planning, daydreaming, wishing for it...either way, why do you want to get married?

Some common arguments which came into my mind:

out of big looove because you think you found the one and only
your parents/society awaits from you to do it finally
you can not be with him/her otherwise
the girl is pregnant
he is rich enough
you want kids and therefore you need/wants to get married
you are desperate still not being married while all your friends are and even your little sis is
you think marriage bounds and strengthens the love with your partner
etc etc.....

I am interested to hear your reasons and ideas!

Salome.. i guess ur thread is inspired from mine:)
On a personal note everything starts with one word: LOVE.. when u find the right person then go for it without hesitation, someone so special is har to find, so grab him so hard, u will not have that second chnce!
enno.. Wow, u find someone who totally understands u, admire u, love u, accept all of ur vices or little mistakes.. or the way u feel when he's around; the peace, the safety, the joy... believe me that one is surely a keeper!!

then.. of course marriage strenghten ur love, ull share the same roof, the same dreams, the same joy and the same pain.. ull finallybe together for the rest of ur life!

forget rich or poor.. Marriage is not commerce neither a loto ticket!! but of course logic is needed! khebze w zaytoune is not acceptable or normal! but u know what, the two should help each others and go forward!

[Maggie]

well, for me i don't take this decision if i'm not sure 100000% that he is the one who i want to continue my life with.

it's not a matter of money or a matter of love it's a full life you wanna share with this person... you havw to think that this person will share u everything, ur bed, ur bathroom, ur life in all it's details

he is the person who u r gonna see his face everyday and every morning.

you'll have to see him in ur good mood and ur bad mood


oh my god

[Salome]

Originally Posted by zodiac

Salome.. i guess ur thread is inspired from mine:)
On a personal note everything starts with one word: LOVE.. when u find the right person then go for it without hesitation, someone so special is har to find, so grab him so hard, u will not have that second chnce!
enno.. Wow, u find someone who totally understands u, admire u, love u, accept all of ur vices or little mistakes.. or the way u feel when he's around; the peace, the safety, the joy... believe me that one is surely a keeper!!

then.. of course marriage strenghten ur love, ull share the same roof, the same dreams, the same joy and the same pain.. ull finallybe together for the rest of ur life!

forget rich or poor.. Marriage is not commerce neither a loto ticket!! but of course logic is needed! khebze w zaytoune is not acceptable or normal! but u know what, the two should help each others and go forward!

yes your thread was an additional inspiration, but obviously i am very much inspired by the movie i saw yesterday

question, why do you want to get married if you found the supposedly perfect partner? i mean who or what enforces you to do it? or is it a moral obligation etc...? or good relationship shall end up as marriage? cant those people just live together? what is the value added of being in a marriage?

You know there are thousands of interesting cases, without claiming general truth just few common ones (live examples):

- the girl starts to feel a bit old therefore she wants to find finally a husband, and for the first appealing occassion, where the guy thinks he is also in love, she gives an ultimatum, either you marry me or we have to break up....this will soon turn out of course a dead end marriage

- or when the couple has been living together for a couple of years, wonderful relationship etc... and finally they decide to get married, not even within one year they get divorced...reason who knows what, we can speculate..

ull finallybe together for the rest of ur life!

dude, it's pretty scary

Originally Posted by Maggie

well, for me i don't take this decision if i'm not sure 100000% that he is the one who i want to continue my life with.

it's not a matter of money or a matter of love it's a full life you wanna share with this person... you havw to think that this person will share u everything, ur bed, ur bathroom, ur life in all it's details

he is the person who u r gonna see his face everyday and every morning.

you'll have to see him in ur good mood and ur bad mood


oh my god

yeah, and how would you know that you are really marrying the right ONE? and if you find out later that it was a mistake, will you have courage to end it?

[Maggie]

Originally Posted by Salome

yeah, and how would you know that you are really marrying the right ONE? and if you find out later that it was a mistake, will you have courage to end it?

well it's how you live ur relation with him, bas akid you don't know what could change

and yes i have the courage to end it sure

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Maggie

well it's how you live ur relation with him, bas akid you don't know what could change

and yes i have the courage to end it sure

yes like there are delicate situations, it might be later at a stage, maybe due to bad moments that either one of them cheats. I would think now it is a black and white case, I would dump him right away...but there are many complicated situations especially if kids are involved..

[LebanonUSA]

Three and 1/2 words: Don't Do It!!!

A wedding is Love's funeral. The minute you say "Na3am" or "I do" or whatever it is you say, that's it. You just lowered Love's coffin into eternity...

[Anny]

For me, if I am in love and after all this time we have been together (at least have spent one year together and have passed bad and good times and ups and downs) and still we are absolutly in love and that love is even growing.

Then, I will think with my mind not just my heart because you can not seperate your mind from your heart and vice-versa. You have to think that you will accept all his defaults and all his quality and all his background. You have to be with someone who shares same comon goals in life and the most important threats you right whatever situation you are in.

The next think, you have to also think about your needs, could be social needs (how to live together in one house, dealing with both of your families, having a social life, does he love people or he is a quiet one. And also, your personnal needs wish are your sex life, when you will wake up everyday beside him, how both of you deals with kids, do you want kids or no, does he support you when you are sick, you also have to think about does he agree with you to raise the kids at home and not work while you have kids. Seriously, how are you gonna raise the kids if you decide to have some. Are both gonna work or you prefere you stay at home and be a house wife.

Can you both live outside the country if someone will have to move for the job?

You also have the discuss lots of issue together. But I can never marry someone who dont respect me, have the same common goals and also I am in love with and he loves me back.

I guess those are all words but at the end, I will never ask a guy to marry me but if it has been more than one year we are together and less than 2 years (because I will not stay with the same person if we still 2 years and yet he didnt ask me to marry him.), and it is working very well and love is growing, I dont see why we dont get married. And dont run the financial excuse that he dont have money to get married, because you can always go to church and get married without the big party and all that **** and both of them work, they can rent and live a very good life.

To recapulate, my reason to get married is because
1- he asked me to marry him and its been more than 1 year we are together, less than 2 years and most important we LOVE each other.
2- we adore each other and our love is growing with all the ups and downs.
3- we respect each other and we treat each other very nicely and we are best friends.
4- we have the most fun together even if we are not doing anything special and even if we both are broke
5- We have difficulties to live without each other.
6- We agree on the most important goals in life, kids, family, not cheating on each other and no one is lazy, man at work and woman at home and with kids.
7- and we both respect the act of marriage even if it isnt a religous act but a civil one.

Oh ya I forgot something, he cant be cheap. I hate cheap people and I cant deal with cheap guys.

[JD06]

we get married becuz society forces us to, if uv been dating the same girl for ages(like me) u get people on ur a.s.s all day telling u to get married..so eventually when ur headache reaches the point of no return u give in and get married...thn ur forced to pretend to like her parents and her stupid brother..
i have no idea y people get married..i dont know if i can ever take tht huge step and propose