why do you have a girl friend - boy friend?

[False Morel]

Originally Posted by rbc

بمعنى اخر ، المراة الذكية القادرة على التطور هي تلك التي تحافظ على رجل ؟ وهل الجنس هو العنصر الاساسي ؟ وهنا ندخل في اشكالية الجنس والمراة والجنس : هل اذا النساء الذين لا يمارسن الجنس مع صديقهن تنتهي العلاقة ، ام هذا يختلف من رجال الى اخر ؟لا يجب ان ننسى اننا في مجتمع شرقي ، الا ترى ان الشروط :الجنسية " المفروضة على المراة من الرجل والعقلية الشرقية بالمطلق ، التي تحاسب المراة على افعالها ، تؤدي الى غش رجل اخر سياتي في حياتها وتقول له "انا براء من الجنس" ؟

You're a funny young woman aren't you.

Why do men/women seek the so called GF/BF?

Many reasons, it may be for fun and adventure, sexual entertainment, peer pressure (a sophisticated form of it), in the quest for a partner, etc.. The all known reasons.

However, there is one motive which is not often mentioned in such discussions as this, or in journals' articles handling such topics as well (maybe because out of my experience I know that writers of those articles are most probably to cling to this immoral behavior).
So, what I am talking about is dating for some beneficial reasons. In other words fooling the lover into a fake relation to make use of him/her. This usually happens when one of the two acquire some cunning skills and is darkly motivated while the other is a total guileless naive! By men sex is usually the purpose while by women it's the vice-versa, meaning not only emotionally but also sexually seducing their victims to fulfill their evil plans!
Of course, things would become pretty interesting and enjoyable to watch in case the two'd be swindling on each other at the same time. Nasty consequences might be witnessed.

[lady_forever]

Everyone needs someone in his life as you need a friend you will need also a partner who can fill ur life with love and care..I believe at young age its sexual thing then later it turns more into seeking someone to share with him or her ur life and live happily with respect and lots of love ...at old age i guess you will need to feel someone is there for u to hug cuddle and care..being alone and lonely is soo hurtful so i believe its human nature that's why God created women and men to complete eachother in every phase in life

[Layyouss]

Dear RBC,
First of all welcome back to the Forum..
Second of all, please when writing in Arabic font enlarge the size so we can easily read what you write.

Regards,
Layyouss

[Mitzidupree]

This subject addresses heterosexuality, when it involves homosexuality, I'll reply!

[shadow1]

Being on the prowl all the time just to share the worderful things life has to offer can get a bit tedious and time consuming. Having a girlfriend is one step towards settling down, and having more is more steps.

It has economic as well as emotional advantages while having none only achieves half of that. And if love is involved, the brains releases chemicals capable of rendering the most insipid activity an enormous source of joy and, hopefully, satisfaction too.

The trees flower in winter and one can hear brids singing when there are no birds and the singing isn't always confined to whinging tunes but stretches towrads sweet phrases and tender behaviour. Even boredom and lethargy metamorphose into something quite relaxing and yearned for if conducted in silence, a kind of catharsis if you will.

[Anny]

Originally Posted by shadow1

Being on the prowl all the time just to share the worderful things life has to offer can get a bit tedious and time consuming. Having a girlfriend is one step towards settling down, and having more is more steps.

It has economic as well as emotional advantages while having none only achieves half of that. And if love is involved, the brains releases chemicals capable of rendering the most insipid activity an enormous source of joy and, hopefully, satisfaction too.

The trees flower in winter and one can hear brids singing when there are no birds and the singing isn't always confined to whinging tunes but stretches towrads sweet phrases and tender behaviour. Even boredom and lethargy metamorphose into something quite relaxing and yearned for if conducted in silence, a kind of catharsis if you will.

wow, are you a man lol?

I think everyone needs someone in their life, sometimes it envolves feelings sometimes, it envolves only needs.

For myself, I have been single for a while since I am at the age thinking of settling down and not wasting my time with a bf that will just be a passing time. I've been there already and after that, there is a next, our needs change, our feelings change and we always ask for more.

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Anny

wow, are you a man lol?

I think everyone needs someone in their life, sometimes it envolves feelings sometimes, it envolves only needs.

For myself, I have been single for a while since I am at the age thinking of settling down and not wasting my time with a bf that will just be a passing time. I've been there already and after that, there is a next, our needs change, our feelings change and we always ask for more.

unbelievable this wedding season, I just got a new invitation 5 mins ago:D...

so how do you plan to find THE one, doesnt it start as "just" boyfriend? arent guys usually scared away from the beginning if you present your plan as marriage in 1 year and kids to follow?

or maybe you will be lucky and bump into THE right...which is not impossible

I guess I told you before I can never imagine marrying someone out of the blue, and to get to know someone truly not even one year of living together is enough...

It is not about wasting time, it is about not doing foolish thing which you will regret later but would be too late...I guess you are still young.

[Anny]

Originally Posted by Salome

unbelievable this wedding season, I just got a new invitation 5 mins ago:D...

so how do you plan to find THE one, doesnt it start as "just" boyfriend? arent guys usually scared away from the beginning if you present your plan as marriage in 1 year and kids to follow?

or maybe you will be lucky and bump into THE right...which is not impossible

I guess I told you before I can never imagine marrying someone out of the blue, and to get to know someone truly not even one year of living together is enough...

It is not about wasting time, it is about not doing foolish thing which you will regret later but would be too late...I guess you are still young.

You know someone's intention when you date them. I didnt say I was against having a boyfriend, and I do agree with what you just said, but I am against having a bf who will waste my time and obviously you will know someone after few dates and his/her intention before you call the bf or gf if you are guy.

Anyhow, for me I am just to busy to date right now, time will come, I am not really worried, I am just living my life day by day but yes I would like to meet someone more serious, not someone who just like to have fun if you know what I mean. Fun is important you got to have both. The best thing is having many male friends and from there, let life leads you, thats how I live my life.

I am not too young by the way, I am in my middle twenties, finish my decent university, working, travelling but what's next. I would like to have someone who will share this life with me but I dont want to feel its temperary. You will be there one day if you havent been already. But I am in this stage right now.

[Anny]

Originally Posted by Salome

unbelievable this wedding season, I just got a new invitation 5 mins ago:D...

so how do you plan to find THE one, doesnt it start as "just" boyfriend? arent guys usually scared away from the beginning if you present your plan as marriage in 1 year and kids to follow?
or maybe you will be lucky and bump into THE right...which is not impossible

I guess I told you before I can never imagine marrying someone out of the blue, and to get to know someone truly not even one year of living together is enough...

It is not about wasting time, it is about not doing foolish thing which you will regret later but would be too late...I guess you are still young.

First of all, I wont say anything to a guy of my attention but you might be surprised of how guys can differe from one to another.

You might not belive me, but some of my friend guys are saying that they are looking to find someone who will marry them, they are sick of just being in relationships that leads no where, I dont know, they might have been hurt many times by girls, they would like to have kids, who knows, maybe social pressure, aging, finding themselves too much alone, I dont know, but all I know is what they share to tell me and they are just my friends, old friends, not guys who just talks to talk. I know them since like ever.

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Anny

...but I am against having a bf who will waste my time and obviously you will know someone after few dates and his/her intention...

First of all we are not dating @ssholes and casanovas (or at least me not), so someone's intentions are very obvious by the first look, if not then after a first date.

What I meant the case when you think you found THE one finally and you think you know him well after a short time.
I dont think one shall rush these things, it is better to give time...

and yes you are young, dont tell me we shall start thinking about ourselves as old at 25