strong personality v/s weak personality

[rayograph]

we often hear people say: "this person has a very strong personality" or "it's his fault, he has such a weak personality!"...

but can you define the components of a strong personality and the symptoms of a weak one, especially that many values are misconceived these days?

[Omeros]

y a pas une reponse definitive ou une recette absolue ....

for the moment ill say this only .... 2 be continued

[Abufijli]

Self confidence. Critical thinking.

[happyarab]

Originally Posted by rayograph

we often hear people say: "this person has a very strong personality" or "it's his fault, he has such a weak personality!"...

but can you define the components of a strong personality and the symptoms of a weak one, especially that many values are misconceived these days?

Sometimes a strong personality means an ugly and violent temper, someone who is excessively controlling, someone who doesn't listen, someone who has too big an ego and who thinks he or she is the only one who deserves to be at the top.

So strong personality is not necessarily a good thing. Hitler, Mussolini, Stalin... all had strong personalities.

Better than "strong" personality is a "charming" personality like Bill Clinton. A charming personality tends to be strong without having the negative sides of a purely strong personality. It is open to other people's opinions, in particular. It listens then make a judgment (rather make a judgment before listening).

[rayograph]

Originally Posted by Abufijli

Self confidence. Critical thinking.

critical thinking? what exactly do you mean by that?

[rayograph]

Originally Posted by happyarab

Sometimes a strong personality means an ugly and violent temper, someone who is excessively controlling, someone who doesn't listen, someone who has too big an ego and who thinks he or she is the only one who deserves to be at the top.

So strong personality is not necessarily a good thing. Hitler, Mussolini, Stalin... all had strong personalities.

Better than "strong" personality is a "charming" personality like Bill Clinton. A charming personality tends to be strong without having the negative sides of a purely strong personality. It is open to other people's opinions, in particular. It listens then make a judgment (rather make a judgment before listening).

I agree that what you described is a bad thing but who says these are criteria of a strong personality? that's exactly why i opened the thread, i mean some characters are considered by some to be strong while to me it's a huge misconception... yalleh bi sarrikh w byenfe3il is not someone with a strong personality but someone who has inner peace w ma bi hezzo shi barraneh is a strong person, don't you think?

[happyarab]

Originally Posted by rayograph

I agree that what you described is a bad thing but who says these are criteria of a strong personality? that's exactly why i opened the thread, i mean some characters are considered by some to be strong while to me it's a huge misconception... yalleh bi sarrikh w byenfe3il is not someone with a strong personality but someone who has inner peace w ma bi hezzo shi barraneh is a strong person, don't you think?

I totally agree.
I was just disagreeing on the definition of "strong" personality.
I think you mean "strong but positive personality."
Because it can be a strong but negative personality like Mussolini.

so I prefer to use charismatic, charming, instead of strong. But perhaps you are right with your definition. I don't know.

[Omeros]

Originally Posted by Abufijli

Self confidence. Critical thinking.

critical ...... u mean critic others???

[Nayla]

Originally Posted by rayograph

we often hear people say: "this person has a very strong personality" or "it's his fault, he has such a weak personality!"...

but can you define the components of a strong personality and the symptoms of a weak one, especially that many values are misconceived these days?

rayo, je vais m'exprimer en français, ok?
Avant de dire qu'est-ce qu'une forte personnalité ou une faible personnalité, on doit commencer par définir la personnalité
La personnalité est l'ensemble des comportements, des aptitudes, des motivations dont l'unité et la permanence constituent l'individualité et la singularité de chacun

Halla2, les gens ont normalement une idée préconçue de la forte personnalité comme étant celle d'une personne criant, hurlant, se querellant avec tout le monde, bref, une personne agressive.

Quelles sont , en réalité , les symptomes d'une forte personnalité?
Quelqu'un ayant une forte personnalité est quelqu'un qui arrive à s'imposer et à imposer sa volonté sans aucune agressivité et sans violence, ayant une tolérance complète pour ceux qui sont en désaccord avec lui
C'est quelqu'un qui a des valeurs humaines et morales infaillibles qui reposent sur des données himaines et sociales inébranlables
C'est quelqu'un qui agit suivant des critères précis et clairs, qui ne laisse pas tomber ses valeurs pour les uns ou pour les autres, et qui ne se laisse pas intimider par n'importe qui
C'est celui qui ne fait aucun compromis quand c'est question de valeurs morales, humaines et sociales
C'est la personne qui arrive à soumettre les autres à sa volonté avec un simple sourire
C'est la personne qui arrive à être sérieuse quand il le faut et enjouée quand il le faut tout en imposant des limites entre les deux états
C'est celui qui impose son respect en respectant les autres

[Nayla]

En plus, la personne ayant une forte personnalité inspire confiance aux autres qui trouvent que c'est quelqu'un sur qui ils peuvent compter durant leurs périodes difficiles
C'est quelqu'un de stable et de bien équilibré, qui arrive à avoir des réactions proportionnelles à la situation donnée
C'est celui qui n'entre pas dans des colères hystériques pour montrer son mécontentement
C'est celui qui cherche à prouver son point de vue sans en aucune façon blesser ou détruire celui qui le contredit

La forte personnalité est une qualité qui demande beaucoup de maitrise de soi et beaucoup de connaissance de soi
Ceci demande bien sur beaucoup de travail mais les résultats sont tellement magiques que ça vaut la peine d'essayer