How to train a husband

[GeaGea SkyWalkeR]

Do what he wants

[Claudia]

Training a husband? I don't like that idea. It looks like training a dog to obbey to our commands...

I think the best thing to do is to study his mother's behaviour with him, before you get married. If she allows him anything, if she treats him like a baby who needs attention all the time, then don't get surprised if he becomes a lazy husband...

No woman can give training to a man... that's just utopic.

[Pringles]

Originally Posted by Claudia

Training a husband? I don't like that idea. It looks like training a dog to obbey to our commands...

I think the best thing to do is to study his mother's behaviour with him, before you get married. If she allows him anything, if she treats him like a baby who needs attention all the time, then don't get surprised if he becomes a lazy husband...

No woman can give training to a man... that's just utopic.

Claudia, i can see that you are a very wise woman who can really deal with a real man.
And you are very realistic.
Yes, it's not good to say train a husband : as a man, i didn't like the idea and i felt like if there is a war between us and women which is not true.

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Claudia

No woman can give training to a man... that's just utopic.

Just because you cant do it, it doesnt mean its impossible:D

Originally Posted by Pringles

...who can really deal with a real man.

Out of curiousity, would you define what is a real man?

[Pringles]

Originally Posted by Salome

Out of curiousity, would you define what is a real man?

A real man is the one who knows exactly how to treat a woman and how to give her love and respect.
He is the one who knows how to be a human and doesn't act as an animal.

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Pringles

A real man is the one who knows exactly how to treat a woman and how to give her love and respect.
He is the one who knows how to be a human and doesn't act as an animal.

I like this:)

[Claudia]

Originally Posted by Pringles

Claudia, i can see that you are a very wise woman who can really deal with a real man.
And you are very realistic.
Yes, it's not good to say train a husband : as a man, i didn't like the idea and i felt like if there is a war between us and women which is not true.

First, thanks Pringles for your kind words and I hope your perception about me may last

Originally Posted by Salome

Just because you cant do it, it doesnt mean its impossible:D

No woman can do that, dear.
A man is not a dog or a cat that you can train him to do what you want him to do. I wouldn't like to train a husband!! A husband is a partner, not a pet.
If a man is used to never make his own bed, to never wash the floor or clean the windows because his sweety mommy never told him to help her on those things, then don't expect that only because he married you, he will change his behaviour.

If you think that you can marry a lazy man and tranforme him in a helper husband, then I am quite sure you're not married.

Usually Nordic men are great helpers to their wifes because they are used to help at home since they are kids. But many Lebanese men are very good husbands too. It has to do with the education they got at home when they were children.
A good husband was a disciplined and obbedient son, that's it.

Originally Posted by Pringles

A real man is the one who knows exactly how to treat a woman and how to give her love and respect.
He is the one who knows how to be a human and doesn't act as an animal.

Exactly. A real husband respect his wife and knows he should help at home because that's the right thing to do and not because the wife tells (or demands) him to.

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Claudia

First, thanks Pringles for your kind words and I hope your perception about me may last



No woman can do that, dear.
A man is not a dog or a cat that you can train him to do what you want him to do. I wouldn't like to train a husband!! A husband is a partner, not a pet.
If a man is used to never make his own bed, to never wash the floor or clean the windows because his sweety mommy never told him to help her on those things, then don't expect that only because he married you, he will change his behaviour.

If you think that you can marry a lazy man and tranforme him in a helper husband, then I am quite sure you're not married.

Usually Nordic men are great helpers to their wifes because they are used to help at home since they are kids. But many Lebanese men are very good husbands too. It has to do with the education they got at home when they were children.
A good husband was a disciplined and obbedient son, that's it.

I dont think we need to take literally the word train here, its just symbolic. The article itself was sarcastic, with the intention to entertain, but how I understood, it is not meant to be taken seriously the comparisons between animal training and husband handling. However there are some truth in the article, hints about how the feminine ways always can reach changes by the men.
You have never experienced this?

I also have to disagree with your stereotypes about husbands, a man (or any human) can be lazy and helpful at the same time, how mommy treated him as a kid, or how he helped or did not help at home will not affect his later life decisively by all means, life itself is a big teacher you know.

[Dalzi]

Originally Posted by Pringles

A real man is the one who knows exactly how to treat a woman and how to give her love and respect.
He is the one who knows how to be a human and doesn't act as an animal.

Real men are rare then .

Originally Posted by Claudia

First, thanks Pringles for your kind words and I hope your perception about me may last

I don't think so .

Originally Posted by Salome

I dont think we need to take literally the word train here, its just symbolic. The article itself was sarcastic, with the intention to entertain, but how I understood, it is not meant to be taken seriously the comparisons between animal training and husband handling. However there are some truth in the article, hints about how the feminine ways always can reach changes by the men.
You have never experienced this?

I also have to disagree with your stereotypes about husbands, a man (or any human) can be lazy and helpful at the same time, how mommy treated him as a kid, or how he helped or did not help at home will not affect his later life decisively by all means, life itself is a big teacher you know.

How do we treat (since the term "train" is considered animalistic lol) lazy men? Beyond treatment i suppose...

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Dalzi

How do we treat (since the term "train" is considered animalistic lol) lazy men? Beyond treatment i suppose...

So as suggested by using the feminine way:D

Like for example, he leaves his dirty socks on the floor all over the flat. If you go and shout with him for that, he just wont listen. But if you address him in a kind feminine way, and tell him nicely but seriously that he makes you so upset by leaving all his dirty socks around, then he might listen more. Maybe next time he will leave just half of his dirty socks on the floor, but you still dont go and shout about the rest, but rather praise him and tell how impressed you are, he can get a kiss too:p So as the article suggested it is a kind of conditioning, like teaching good reflexes.
I dont know if anything else would work with lazy men:D