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"O, beware, my lord, of jealousy;
It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock
The meat it feeds on; that cuckold lives in bliss
Who, certain of his fate, loves not his wronger;
But, O, what damned minutes tells he o'er
Who dotes, yet doubts, suspects, yet strongly loves!"
/Othello/
Are you the jealous type? How do you react when you have doubts about your gf/bf's?
Am interested to see how girls and boys deal differently (?) with this issue.
A good relation should be based on trust..I used to believe in that but once stung u stop..you stop trusting..i guess when a man or a woman are constantly jealous then the relation between them will be hell..so jealousy is bad..it destroys people ...it eats them alive and they end up fighting allthe time..now back to me as i said i lost trust and was jealous for long but in end i guess i should control my emotions and shouldnt feel jealous cause as we say not all men are alike nor women
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A good relation should be based on trust..I used to believe in that but once stung u stop..you stop trusting..i guess when a man or a woman are constantly jealous then the relation between them will be hell..so jealousy is bad..it destroys people ...it eats them alive and they end up fighting allthe time..now back to me as i said i lost trust and was jealous for long but in end i guess i should control my emotions and shouldnt feel jealous cause as we say not all men are alike nor women
and doesnt jealousy has always a base? but maybe yes you can get to a point that after you lost your trust, you will be always jealous without any base
I agree, jealousy is a very destructive feeling, destroys you and your partner as well, and once it sets foot it is so hard to uproot it
but how do you get over it? you said you experienced jealousy, could you trust that man again in whom you lost your trust before...did you stop being jelaous? or remained always suspective?
and then how about men? its a general men's complaint that they often feel like they are being controlled. I guess jealousy from womens side is just feeding this feeling in the men.
I would love to hear also some men's perspective, what they do or how they react when they are jealous of their gf.
Here is some illustrative artistic expression of jealousy, I just love this song:
I think the other make you feel jaleous sometimes because your bf or gf acts in improper ways and steps on the respect that it should be built in the first place in a relationship.
For example,someone might have a close friend of the opposite sex and when you date that person, in a way you can be jaleous if he doesnt have limits to his or her friends of the opposite sex. Its all about respect your other partner and understand your limits with other friends and people of the opposite sex. Thats how the trust can begin between you and your partner and set some limits what bothers you in a relationship.
I am myself a jaleous person when it comes with my bf and or the guy I am dating. I cant support if he meets other girls in the same time that he is dating me or have close friends wish are girls but I let him know and we set limits to other people. Jaleousy has cure to stop it and that is how the other react with others for you and infront of you. Its all abour respecting your partner
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I think the other make you feel jaleous sometimes because your bf or gf acts in improper ways and steps on the respect that it should be built in the first place in a relationship.
For example,someone might have a close friend of the opposite sex and when you date that person, in a way you can be jaleous if he doesnt have limits to his or her friends of the opposite sex. Its all about respect your other partner and understand your limits with other friends and people of the opposite sex. Thats how the trust can begin between you and your partner and set some limits what bothers you in a relationship.
I am myself a jaleous person when it comes with my bf and or the guy I am dating. I cant support if he meets other girls in the same time that he is dating me or have close friends wish are girls but I let him know and we set limits to other people. Jaleousy has cure to stop it and that is how the other react with others for you and infront of you. Its all abour respecting your partner
Thanks Anny, I pretty much agree with you.
And what about that when men/women set limit but they perceive the limit for the other differently, and not equally - meaning what is allowed to the man is not necessarily allowed to the woman.
i tried to have an agreement with my girlfriend, saying that i can do whatever i want and she would trust me, and she can do whatever she wants and i trust her...
it ended up me not caring about our relationship neither about her, (from her point of view if i wasn't jealous it means i don't care about us) because i told her go do anything she wants and whatever she feels is right,
now she does everything she wants, talks to guys take their numbers chat go out in groups, play together etc... and i don't give a d*mn, she can do whatever she wants with them im not a police officer nor a teacher to shout at her or get mad at everything she does, she's totally free, but...
on the other hand if i talk to a girl hell breaks loose, if i take the number of a girl classmate to ask her about homeworks and stuff an armageddon is unleashed, if i look at a girl i get a slap or saf2et bouz kel l nhar, every time i talk to a girl means i have a crush on her...blablabla
if i wasn't 0.5/10 i think we couldn't have survived 2 years till now, but im really having a big problem with me being 0.5 and her being 9.5 and i don't know if i can really take it anymore!
is, not giving a d*mn what your gf does, means not caring about her ? anyone with the same prob ?
LOL OI!
Personally i guess i could fit in 3 and 5.. 7asab el occasion w 7asab el "guy"!
Im usually a very jealous person.. and I LOVE IT!
i am very jealous and i love it , and i like any gf of mine to be as jealous too
of course there's limits for everything but i never witnessed in my life any person who's jealous like hell , jealousy means love for me
as for by degree of jealousy it depends on wich girl
ye3neh the one i love , everytime someone adds her on facebook i cant sleep for 2 days , and the problem is that her profile pic is so beautiful that everyday 20-50 guys add her , she picks 60% of them
u know , girls like to tell stories about how many men like them and add them on fb
so i couldn't make her ignore more than 40% ........
i tried to have an agreement with my girlfriend, saying that i can do whatever i want and she would trust me, and she can do whatever she wants and i trust her...
it ended up me not caring about our relationship neither about her, (from her point of view if i wasn't jealous it means i don't care about us) because i told her go do anything she wants and whatever she feels is right,
now she does everything she wants, talks to guys take their numbers chat go out in groups, play together etc... and i don't give a d*mn, she can do whatever she wants with them im not a police officer nor a teacher to shout at her or get mad at everything she does, she's totally free, but...
on the other hand if i talk to a girl hell breaks loose, if i take the number of a girl classmate to ask her about homeworks and stuff an armageddon is unleashed, if i look at a girl i get a slap or saf2et bouz kel l nhar, every time i talk to a girl means i have a crush on her...blablabla
if i wasn't 0.5/10 i think we couldn't have survived 2 years till now, but im really having a big problem with me being 0.5 and her being 9.5 and i don't know if i can really take it anymore!
is, not giving a d*mn what your gf does, means not caring about her ? anyone with the same prob ?
well I can tell how I see and might be true for most of the girls, if the guy really doesnt care at all what the girl does, where she goes, with whom she meets etc...while in a relationship, well then the guy certainly is not that attached to the girl, probably doesnt love her.
A certain level of jealousy is ok, you just dont need to overdo it. Its all about trust, if you can trust one other then one doesnt need to worry every minute what the other does, talk or think etc..
For me it seems the girl you are talking about has serious possessing tendencies toward you, well this is something also one shall avoid to feel like owning the other and being owned, because it kills love.
Why dont you demand equality with your gf? If she wants to control you you can control her too...or the total freedom shall be reciprocal, or? But I dont see the meaning of total freedom in a relationship, because you are either totally free and independent single or you have a partner to take into consideration.
The Green-Eyed Monster - Jealousy -
14th May 2009
, she picks 60% of them 
