Forgiveness

[Anny]

I never forget but sometimes, we forgive but its never like it used to be specially in the friendship. In love I never forgive and I never forget!

[Nayla]

Originally Posted by Anny

I never forget but sometimes, we forgive but its never like it used to be specially in the friendship. In love I never forgive and I never forget!

Yes, It's so hard to forgive when the person is very close

And I find it very hard to forget some hurt so that it's hard to forgive easily.

Personally, it takes me time to forgive cz since I feel the pain deep in my heart, it means that I didn't forgive yet, neither forgot.
When I start to feel good, I know that I forgave and then, I try to forget.

[Anny]

Originally Posted by Nayla H

Yes, It's so hard to forgive when the person is very close

And I find it very hard to forget some hurt so that it's hard to forgive easily.

Personally, it takes me time to forgive cz since I feel the pain deep in my heart, it means that I didn't forgive yet, neither forgot.
When I start to feel good, I know that I forgave and then, I try to forget.

But can you return friends with someone who you cant forget what they did to hurt you?

For me, as friends lets say, I always make a distance when the other hurt me. It become Jadé, we dont have jokes between us, we stop hanging out like we use too and all of sudden, with more time, we end just saying hi to each other.

As a lover, I dont even talk to them again for the rest of my life, even a simple hi I dont say, I cant forgive, because I lost all confidence and all trust in the guy.

[lady_forever]

Originally Posted by Faithful

Fakhreddine asked about forgiveness in a political thread, i think if i replyed to him there it's . So i opened this thread to talk about forgiveness and to answer Fakhreddine. Min ba3ed iznak fakhreddine



In Christianity, you are never obliged to do anything. You are free. So i won't answer you with a religious reply, even if i believe that forgiveness is a gift from God because its really hard to forgive.

Why you want to forgive???

Because forgiveness ya Fakhr is a gift you give to yourself before being something you do for someone else. If you are already hurt from someone and you feel angry of him, you waste a lot a lot of energy for hate and anger. Refusing to forgive by holding on to the anger, resentment and a sense of betrayal can make your own life miserable, chou alla jabrak ???? . Ma he already hurt you and without forgiving him you allow him to hurt you more and more.
So better to forgive him because the hurts won't heal until you forgive. Thus you can feel peace again and you can go forward in your life.

I know that forgiving is not that easy and it cant be done very fast. But its really the best way to heal.


Now lets here other member's opinion. What do you think about forgiveness ? Do you forgive ? if yes or no please say why ?

And what if the pain that he gave u is deeper to be forgiven..for example a husband cheats on his wife despite she being all time to support him and finds out that he has been having an affair which lasted for 3 years..will we able to forgive...i don't think so..well i think on how major the hurt u got from someone u thought he wouldnt ever hurt u...

[lady_forever]

Originally Posted by Fakhr eddine 1618

OK, Your posts always make sense

But I strongly recommend that you read carefully the 3 first posts of this thread
I get the feeling that they are not forgiving or looking for forgiveness for a certain reason related to a certain case, they want to do it because they are looking for freedom, it is like they are prisonner to an idea and want to be free, it is like they are liberating themselves.

So this is what I meant in human.

For me, I decided not to listen to my emotions or to my sensations or my weakness, I decided to anlyse the cases case by case and be solid and severe enough to make the other collapse and pay their mistakes while I have cool blood
I am not anymore that small little kid that is eternally seeking to be good in order to satisfy his mom or his teacher,
I decide to be fair, to have conditions, to take and give

(Allah yestor ma oukhlas bi jhannam)

Nooooooo you wont end up in hell don't worry many people like you and i am in a way revengeful if it is someone that i dont really care and hurts me i hurt her or him back 5 times what they did to me..if it is member of my family..well i guess they won't hurt u cause they love u and if they do it won't be a major one..a friend might hurt u can just walk away and keep distance..as for me i don't forgive cause i try not to hurt my friends so i expect to be treated the same and if i hurt one of my friends it is not that i intended to and i expect her or him to keep distance from me too

[Zouxi]

i never forgive anybody...

[Red Phoenix]

Originally Posted by Zouxi

i never forgive anybody...

but u can take it a step further and pretend u forgave so u can exact vengeance later ! hehe

[Nayla]

Originally Posted by Red Phoenix

but u can take it a step further and pretend u forgave so u can exact vengeance later ! hehe

hehe
You'll never stop surprising me Red Phoenix

[coralie]

Originally Posted by Red Phoenix

but u can take it a step further and pretend u forgave so u can exact vengeance later ! hehe

bel francais men oul "la vengeance est un plat qui se mange froid"

i will not bother , revenge is not my style, people who hurt me do not even diserve the effort . i simply throw them behind me as if they do not exist .

[Dalzi]

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Now lets here other member's opinion. What do you think about forgiveness ? Do you forgive ? if yes or no please say why ?

If you can forgive you are a better person.