Does he need to be rich?

[Dalzi]

Originally Posted by Orange angel

haha well on the contrary, your love should push you forward to build a future together... it's essential, the head alone will not do, becoz LOVE is the motivation....

Love is the motivation? How so? That's more like 15 year old school girl talk.

[Orange angel]

Originally Posted by Dalzi

Love is the motivation? How so? That's more like 15 year old school girl talk.

Well no my dear, it's a perfectly mature talk... when 2 people love eachother deeply, they'll fight for their relationship, work, save money and build a future together... that's how things are between most middle class couples...
And Love is indeed the motivation, becoz if they're not devowed to eachother, they will not find the strength or the will to carry on... they'll think like: ok, it's not worth making all these efforts, i don't love him/her that much...

[Akhwat belmarra]

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On a serious note, this is a real story; it happened a couple of weeks ago. Many may think that “ine 2esm 3a msama”, yet I can’t imagine myself accepting her offer no matter how hard I try to justify it. I loved her without any expectations, and I accepted her the way she was. That was and still is more than enough for me.

[Dalzi]

Originally Posted by Akhwat belmarra

[...]
On a serious note, this is a real story; it happened a couple of weeks ago. Many may think that “ine 2esm 3a msama”, yet I can’t imagine myself accepting her offer no matter how hard I try to justify it. I loved her without any expectations, and I accepted her the way she was. That was and still is more than enough for me.

heik bted3as 3a ne3met rabbna ya Akhwat?

On a serious note, I see where she's coming from. This is probably the first time she's met someone who doesn't care about her financial status. She's not equating money with love, she's showing you how much she trusts you. She's crazy lol lhai2a tanjra w le2et ghataha :P

[Akhwat belmarra]

Originally Posted by Dalzi

heik bted3as 3a ne3met rabbna ya Akhwat?

On a serious note, I see where she's coming from. This is probably the first time she's met someone who doesn't care about her financial status. She's not equating money with love, she's showing you how much she trusts you. She's crazy lol lhai2a tanjra w le2et ghataha :P

Well. She is still very insisting that I sign the paperwork even though she hasn’t asked for anything in return, except to allow her to love me. I think heye l khawta mish ana, or maybe both of us as u said. (ma inte betdalik t2oli 3ani 2akhwat).
Maybe someday I’ll sign just to get her off my back, mish 3am t7el 3ani.

[Dalzi]

Originally Posted by Akhwat belmarra

Well. She is still very insisting that I sign the paperwork even though she hasn’t asked for anything in return, except to allow her to love me. I think heye l khawta mish ana, or maybe both of us as u said. (ma inte betdalik t2oli 3ani 2akhwat).
Maybe someday I’ll sign just to get her off my back, mish 3am t7el 3ani.

I like her... I really do... It's very rare to find a woman who offers unconditioned love (or nicely conditioned for that matter).

[shadow1]

Originally Posted by Salome

So my question is to the girls here, the man whom you will love does he need to be rich? Is this a critera you consider anyway?

Well I am not a girl but I couldnt resist the temptation. I know this twins, 2 beautiful girls from my town. One of them married a foreigner from Jounieh who was rich but was also so ugly you could use his face as a prototype for Halloween masks. She has had a wonderful life with him. He treats her so nicely and she never stops flaunting her wealth to anyone interested and pretend to those who dont know her peasant background to be the incarnation of the Queen of Sheeba.

Her sister was the romantic type a la Jane Austen novels. She married a good looking dude who was as poor as a church mouse. The first 5 years of marriage while still intoxicated with love, she enjoyed life in the arms of a man she simply adored. But then..As time rolled on by, his looks began to fade and his penchant for fatty food overpowered his vanity. His looks Love beagn to wane and 15 years later, she could no loner bear his sight and he left her to look after 3 children on her own and if it werent for her sister she wouldnt be able to survive. Moral of the story: Diamonds are a girl's best friend.

If I were a girl and I am not and dont intend on becoming one, I'd marry for money. This way love is deeper and everlasting. Not to mention the old trruth: One must never get one's bread where one gets one's meat. If you are rich you can afford toyboys ( My aunt Emilia is a living monument to this truth). If you are poor all you could afford is reflections.
Now what happens if the money is gone and the old truth sticks out:

يا آخد القرد على مالو راح المال وضل القرد ع حالو
I dont want to know.

Is there a difference in your criteria between when a guy is "just" a boyfriend or when you are planning to marry him?

If it isnt there should be. One needs variety. When you wanna marry a dude go for personality(i.e money). When you dont, go for looks. And if you combine the two it's great but we all know looks arent forever. Money and kindness are.

[Salome]

Originally Posted by Boris®

of course he needs to be rich (concerning stereotyped lebanese girls) even if they say "no, it doesnt matter", deep down themselves they think that way, trust me.

ok now girls you can bash me :)

You may be right about it, in general girls (anywhere) prefer if the guy is at least wealthier than her...must be social condition and traditions...

Also replies we see here on this forum might not represent the general picture, meaning that we have some non-materialist girls here:)

Originally Posted by Dalzi

He's gotta be successful. and he is :D

What do you mean, can you elaborate?

Originally Posted by Akhwat belmarra

I met this woman not too long ago; to make a story short she fell madly in love with me. I knew nothing about her financial situation as I didn’t care for that sort of stuff, what mattered for me was that she was sizzling hot, highly educated, and extremely smart (in that order).
A few days ago I get a call from the head of a major bank telling me that my name has been added on her account with full control over the funds, and I need to come in to sign. That same day a lawyer called me saying that my name has been added to all her assets, also effectively giving me full control of selling anything I wanted. She turned out to be a multi millionaire (US dollars not LP), and according to her all her wealth is a small token of appreciation to the love I’ve given her, and the happiness I brought to her life.
I refused to sign and I almost left her for equating love with monetary value.

l don't know if your story is true, but it is so similar to the ones I get in e-mails:D
So in your place I would worry what is her motivation...I wouldn't sign anything, you may never know in what you are getting yourself into.

Love has to be separated from money, because money in general corrupts the minds (respect to exceptions)...now it also doesn't mean that you or your partner shouldn't pursue a nice career and earn well, just that money shall never be a way to measure someone.

Originally Posted by freemind

Do a survey dear Salome.

...and figure that most want the lucrative fatty mariage and at the same time most mock chastity as a value!

2 different topics you mention here, for both I opened a thread earlier....


Now above he being rich would it be a criteria for you that he is equally or even higher educated than you? Meaning does he need to be your equivalent or above your social status concerning wealth and intellectuals?

And how about that when he is rich but not educated or lower educated than you, would his wealth compensate his intellectual shortcomings?

And how about those guys who are extremely intelligent and educated but still poor?

[orange infection]

no he doesn't , he just need to pretend being rich

[Orange angel]

Originally Posted by orange infection

no he doesn't , he just need to pretend being rich

Hehe typically lebanese... tejgil w tofchit. Any guy can do that, but eventually the girl will know he's lying. 7abl el kezeb 2assir...
Now of course, if he's dating her just for fun, he won't care if she finds out, but if he's considering her seriously, then it'll be a real mess...