Can you Tolerate Cheating ?

[coralie]

Originally Posted by BEPSEH

I am not trying to skip your question but I was little busy.
Now answering your question , why would I cheat if I can marry another woman ? but lets say that I cheated on my wife by committing adultary then she have the right to kill me! am I clear?

thank u !!!
this is ur opinion i totaly disagree with u . i still prefer a smooth ending !!! like divorce !!!

[Stella]

Bepseh, love is more important than honor, love is the essence of the whole nature, but of course, to love, requires courage.

[Bodhisattva]

Bepsheh,

sine you seem like a fair man, and in your view: if she cheats you kill her

you countered with: if i cheat she has a right to kill me

which in my view is still radical, personally im very hard to convince of any killing justifiable or not!

which brings me to my next question since from the above, you maintained an albeit radical but at least: "non-hyprocratical" position and you came out of the double standard.

Would you Allow your wife "not to cheat" by marrying another man too? Perhaps 3 others as you have kindly mentioned that you wounldnt cheat since you could marry the woman ud choose to have an affair with!


awaiting your responce in due time, till then

Be Happy!


bodhisattva.

[BEPSEH]

Originally Posted by Bodhisattva

Bepsheh,

sine you seem like a fair man, and in your view: if she cheats you kill her

you countered with: if i cheat she has a right to kill me

which in my view is still radical, personally im very hard to convince of any killing justifiable or not!

which brings me to my next question since from the above, you maintained an albeit radical but at least: "non-hyprocratical" position and you came out of the double standard.

Would you Allow your wife "not to cheat" by marrying another man too? Perhaps 3 others as you have kindly mentioned that you wounldnt cheat since you could marry the woman ud choose to have an affair with!


awaiting your responce in due time, till then

Be Happy!


bodhisattva.

I am a religious man and according to my religion the woman can't marry more than one man.

[lady_forever]

Originally Posted by coralie

mmm is this an "silent" advice to women who's suffering from cheating ??? or ur practicing the legal right of equality between man and woman u kill i kill !!!

hehe beware Coralie we have twp people who would kill for honor....cool then we are living in Flinstons time...or maybe people of caves

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by coralie

mmmmmmmmm no i dont but i have an idea about how much men cheat on their wives tho !!! women cheat as well i didnt deny that !!! can any one tell us why ??? what is wrong in a marriage or in a relation to push ppl to cheat ??? is it a lack of love ??? a need ???? a revenge ???

it life...
boredom
ego
routine
proving to oneself that one is still capable of "being a man," or being a "seductive woman"

etc...
I'm afraid i would have to go with Bepseh on this one... if my wife cheated on me I think i would kill her... I guess I am motakhallif in that way

[BEPSEH]

anyone read the "Le Cid" stroy ? its a good story of Love VS Honor

[coralie]

i belive yes wer 're still living in stone ages .. what really amaze me is that no one brought the idea about couples talking discussing their problems , trying to see what went wrong why did they have to go thrue this painfull distructive experience , its really ashame we are in the 21 century and yet we can not sit and talk like civilized grown up ppl !!! we hurt each other , we insult each other we cheat and yet we are not able to do one positif thing to fix what went wrong !!!

[PhoenixResurrection]

Yes Bepseh, I've read Le Cid. It might be a nice play but don't forget the historical context.
It is a 12th century epic!
We do not have the same customs and beliefs as in teh middle-ages. Society changes, EVOLVES and hopefully we just drop the discriminating and ridiculous beliefs of these old ages and become a "Modern" society.

Originally Posted by coralie

i belive yes wer 're still living in stone ages .. what really amaze me is that no one brought the idea about couples talking discussing their problems , trying to see what went wrong why did they have to go thrue this painfull distructive experience , its really ashame we are in the 21 century and yet we can not sit and talk like civilized grown up ppl !!! we hurt each other , we insult each other we cheat and yet we are not able to do one positif thing to fix what went wrong !!!

Honesly Coralie, when a man or a woman cheats on his/her partner, the marriage is over. At least in my definition.
If someone in the couple is having problems, he/she ought to talk about it ASAP and not let it drift away and definitely NOT go on cheating on his/her partner. what this happens, it is just the first signature on the divorce papers.
There is just no way to fix things up.

[coralie]

Originally Posted by PhoenixResurrection

Yes Bepseh, I've read Le Cid. It might be a nice play but don't forget the historical context.
It is a 12th century epic!
We do not have the same customs and beliefs as in teh middle-ages. Society changes, EVOLVES and hopefully we just drop the discriminating and ridiculous beliefs of these old ages and become a "Modern" society.

Honesly Coralie, when a man or a woman cheats on his/her partner, the marriage is over. At least in my definition.
If someone in the couple is having problems, he/she ought to talk about it ASAP and not let it drift away and definitely NOT go on cheating on his/her partner. what this happens, it is just the first signature on the divorce papers.
There is just no way to fix things up.

its exactly what i was saying ! we dont talk to eachother there is a big hole and we simply let ourselves drift into desaster !!! of course when cheating occure marriage is over !!! i will not argue with u on this 100% with u !