Any good psychiatrists you can suggest? - The Orange Room

Rexus

I have this serious problem where I'm really quiet. I force myself to talk at times, but that's just stupid, since I would like to talk at ease instead of being forced into it. This really mutilates me, especially when there are girls about, so thanks for any help you can give out.

G-K

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Originally Posted by Rexus

I have this serious problem where I'm really quiet. I force myself to talk at times, but that's just stupid, since I would like to talk at ease instead of being forced into it. This really mutilates me, especially when there are girls about, so thanks for any help you can give out.

you mean you need number of a psychitrist?
i know one, tell me which area do you live?

Rexus

I sent you a PM.

Omeros

i am majoring in arabic litterature and minoring in psychology....so i can help u if u want :)

Miss Orange

well i don't know any psychiatrists

but i guess i could give some advice :)

well before you go push yourself, you have to be convinced of what you are doing. If you are pushing yourself to talk and you're not confident this might make things worse.

First of all don't feel like you're the only one in this world with such a problem. It's ok many have it and its good you want to change :)

Second remember the quiet ones often study their words more than the ones who talk a lot. the ones who talk a lot at times byi2itsho w byishal7o 3al fadee. So don't worry iza sometimes bas bit2oul kilmet 2il lezme.

When you're out/around girls try to remember that they probably have the same feeling inside. So you be the one to try to open up a conversation.

Usually it's easiest for one to talk a lot about their interests. So talk about what rexus likes. don't worry about impressing anyone. talking about what u like tends to come more naturally and won't seem like you are forcing yourself. you will probably enjoy describing things you like or are interested in. And ask questions, which often helps to get more "talking"

Another thing that may help until you feel you have overcome this "quietness" will be ...trying not to be around people who just talk and never shut up...reason being they don't leave time or space for you to talk and you may take advantadge of that and say oh well i had no time lool so its ok. LA2 make the time.

anyways i was a bit of help.

btw don't watch porn! that's just going to make you not impress girls (real good advice tayyara :P)

P.s. you don't have to talk about "girl" stuff never feel that we are often attracted to the differences in others. Be rexus and don't worry about what others are going to say.

Rexus

Thanks all for your help. Miss Orange: lovely advice much appreciated :D I'd still like to vent out at a psychiatrist, so if anyone knows an exceptionally good one, I'd love to have an appointment with him/her.

Miss Orange

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Originally Posted by Rexus

Thanks all for your help. Miss Orange: lovely advice much appreciated :D I'd still like to vent out at a psychiatrist, so if anyone knows an exceptionally good one, I'd love to have an appointment with him/her.

anytime :) i wish i knew someone to tell you about, but i dont.

another tip i just remembered. It affected a friend of mine. Try not to be very virtual...ye3ni try not to close yourself in just on msn/internet. Many talk a lottt virutally and then this weakens and their personality because they are no longer used to face to face conversations.

:) good luck

Abou-Eddie

What your case requires is a psychologist and not a psychiatrist. Sent you a PM with a very trustworthy and competent psychologist.

lebluv

I second abou edie...
fromz professional medical point of view you need a psychologist not a psychiatrist!!
Psychiatry relies mostly on drugs and you must have a drop in social functioning so that they start with you..
psychologist...psychoanalytic is what you need..

Stella

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Originally Posted by Rexus

I have this serious problem where I'm really quiet. I force myself to talk at times, but that's just stupid, since I would like to talk at ease instead of being forced into it. This really mutilates me, especially when there are girls about, so thanks for any help you can give out.

Maybe a psychologist can help, but everything depends on you, he cant change you unless you want to. So dont await solutions from everybody esle but from yourself!

I guess you have to open up, if you are at school, get friends and hang out with them.

You have this false image about yourself that you "cant talk", well just drop it:)