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Originally Posted by der FPBer  this sexuality issue i can never understand!
specially the way it is conceived by the lebanese people.
sexual discrimination cant be simply got rid of. it's vital to the continuence of our pre-defined societies at the basic level; however, "mispracticing" it in some aspects can be pretty destructive as well!
in other words, sexual discrimination should be kept at the instinctual level and should never be practiced at the social level in a developed manner than that of the "healthy" one. |
What does sexual discrimination have to do with this? Allah yse3do! LOL
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for instance, can somebody state for me what differences in personalities might exist between a man and a woman? arent both bound to have the same social roles and psychological characteristics?!
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Psychologically? Nope. They're more like two different species lol. When they understand that they are actually not the same, things would work out better.
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and then, when a couple decides finally to marry, or more generally, move in to live in one house and try to build a family since here in europe you dont need to sign papers or to get the stupid blessing of a clergyman in order to do this, why would they or one of them has to change anything in her/his personality, principles, or behavior?!
arent they supposed to be at full satisfaction and harmony of and with each other in order for them to take such a decision?!
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It's not about changing everything, but there are things that your partner might not like to live with. For example, you clubbing all night (generally speaking) lol, or her morning coffee every day
. Certain things have to change when you want to start a family. It's not like you're going to have to stop liking the colour blue for example! :D It's about other things. People need to compromise.
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as for me, the only thing i would like to get from my partner is that she stays the way i always knew her! she dont have to change anything in her nor add anything. and definetly she wont be doing certain extra things for me and vice-versa!
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The life of a single person is different to that of s/he who has a partner. You or her would need to adapt and consequently change some things you're used to being single.
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now that doesnt mean that a break up must be avoidable. problems and major misunderstandings due to wrong judgements could happen. at that point a break up is the only solution, there is no need to heal anything.
however, if that occurs at high percentage rate, then the whole society should be diseased! try to fix that up instead of seeking some shallow solutions!
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Breaking up when there's kids is a disaster to say the least. That's because you're taking others in your way. It hurst and harms children. So better make a wise decision in the beginning, or try to deal with simple problems. If there's no third party involved, Allah ma3 dwelibo lol.
1st June 2008
. If he shouts at me, I'll simply walk out, and it's raw7a bala raj3a 
