Someone is flirting with my baby

[Stella]

Originally Posted by marisha

well, lot of people look at others but that's harmless isn't it
You can't stop someone from looking at you, can you? but it's all about looking back and initiating the game. She doesn't have to go mad, if men are also looking at her. I think the man should be proud/flattered that others are looking at his woman! and vice versa :) but that's about it.

Well its all about the reaction given to that flirtatious looks I guess.
But isnt there any trend to go into these flirtatious games from both sides, even if you consider yourself in love with your baby?

Surely it must be flattering to some extend that your baby is receiving looks bc of his/her outlook, but after a while surely its getting annoying to you, right? Even if your baby is not flirting back.

[CPL]

If someone is trying to flirt with my baby, i'd be flattered, because I'm with the prettiest! (H)

Plus, I would congratulate him for his taste.

[4U2IMI8]

Originally Posted by Stella

How do you handle such situations when you see that someone is flirting with your bf/gf? Take for example you are out in a restaurant, or in a club, sitting at a table, and you notice someone is trying to flirt with your baby.
Like what will you do if a nice/sexy lady obviously smiling constantly at your bf, or a handsome guy is staring at your gf in a flagrant way?

Will you go around teasing with this each others, meaning both of you will start flirting around while you are out together? How would you react if your gf/bf is welcoming these flirtatous looks, or even reciprocating?

I am curious to know your opinions or personal experiences, as I heard this attitude is quite typical in Lebanon.

Stella, you beat me to it. This was suppose to be my next thread.
I really don't know what it is that makes some women/men think that by flirting, making remarks, etc, they can erase a whole relationship. It goes back to the trust factor. When we go out, and both look like a million dollars, looks of admiration are welcomed, but beyond that a line has to be drawn. We both know how to stop/ prevent advances and such (experience ). Women in this case are much more agressive than men. A beautiful woman is expected to get lots of looks, advances, flirts, etc. but typically men are not because women are suppose to be sought after not seekers. Some women envy the fact that a woman has a prticular man, they think that if he was theirs he would be much better off, they think that they're much prettier and thus he should be theirs, many factors come to play in this case. Because women are not suppose to be agressors, when they do, they expect results, if they don't achieve what they want, unlike men they don't back off. This becomes an insult to them. They will do the impossible to get what they want, even suggesting a sexual encounter.
My advice: If you trust your man, take it as a compliment. It's really gratifying to be admired, his love for you will not be wavered by a passing flirt, or even a hostile takeover.

[Miss Orange]

Originally Posted by Stella

How do you handle such situations when you see that someone is flirting with your bf/gf? Take for example you are out in a restaurant, or in a club, sitting at a table, and you notice someone is trying to flirt with your baby.
Like what will you do if a nice/sexy lady obviously smiling constantly at your bf, or a handsome guy is staring at your gf in a flagrant way?

Will you go around teasing with this each others, meaning both of you will start flirting around while you are out together? How would you react if your gf/bf is welcoming these flirtatous looks, or even reciprocating?

I am curious to know your opinions or personal experiences, as I heard this attitude is quite typical in Lebanon.

what would i do in such a situation?...mmm simple i'd kill her

no no im just kidding don't get the wrong impression here i'm really not a violent person

Personally i know and dont think my love would ever welcome the flirtatious looks. And im sure many do look at him and give looks. So if i wanted to be paranoid because im far away i really could be and then id make both are lives a living hell lol. But oh well, they can look all they want but i know who im in love with and if our love wasnt this strong and if i didnt have all the trust in him that i do have then maybe id worry. But you can't let childish looks get in between love. Do i and would i get jealous of course! i'm not made out of stone but theres toooo much love to actually be small minded about stuff like this.

And if by any chance the person i was with was responding back to these flirtatious looks then as someone said earlier they don't deserve a second from my time. I would be wasting precious time from my lifetime on some one who definitely doesn't deserve it

[marisha]

Originally Posted by Stella

Surely it must be flattering to some extend that your baby is receiving looks bc of his/her outlook, but after a while surely its getting annoying to you, right? Even if your baby is not flirting back.

no, and it happens often :)...makes me feel even better, Im with him, he is with me! i'm flattered, ego stuff, you know :P...he feels the same, but jealousy gets in the way sometimes because somehow love is possessive :S

[Stella]

Originally Posted by 4U2IMI8

Stella, you beat me to it. This was suppose to be my next thread.

LOL sorry, next turn is yours

Originally Posted by marisha

no, and it happens often :)...makes me feel even better, Im with him, he is with me! i'm flattered, ego stuff, you know :P...he feels the same, but jealousy gets in the way sometimes because somehow love is possessive :S

Sure its flattering big time:p but jealousy is there anyway, you cant do anything about it. But there shall not be any problems if they love each others, and trust the other:)

[Fragrance of Roses]

Ah! I like this thread! Thanks Stella la Bella!

It is usually me who gets checked out when we go out :P and the only way I deal with it is by not only ignoring the person checking me out (except if it is a girl :P) but also by pouring my entire attention on my guy (and lavishing him with love).

When my guy got checked out: it did not affect me when I was committed, but fueled me only ONE TIME in a fling. However, the only reason it did was because the guy I was with reciprocated the looks... I thought that this was cheap and cheesy, but again, he was cheap and cheesy and it was a very very good riddance (You'll get it Stell ;))

A few weeks ago, I was out on a date in Jemaizeh having drinks with a "someone" and this girl who is look alike of Martine McCutcheon
gave the guy I was with the sexiest of looks and the sweetest of smiles (guess she has something for cigars :P), and the way he handled it made my respect to him double instantly.

This is one of the ways you show respect to the other: by totally ignoring everyone else around you and totally concentrating on him/her. Whether you are on a business date or a romantic date, keep yourself from checking out people. If you wanna check out people, do it at any other time when you do not have a lady with you even if it is your mother.

Let me, however, share this story with you. I was once out with my husband and another couple, and the guys were having a conversation, while me and the other girl were checking out other women (for some weird reason). She spotted two girls sitting across from us and asked me which one I think is more beautiful. I pointed out one for her and said: "My hubby will like this one better." She asked: "How do you know?" I said: "Cause I know his taste for I point out girls to him (beautiful ones) and ask him of his opinion, and we admire them together!" When I asked my husband about which one he prefers, he chose the one I said he'll like. When my husband in turn asked my friend's husband about the girl he thinks is more beautiful, he refrained from answering, but when pressed, he pointed out one girl....

Result? OWWWW GOD!!!! My friend raised HELLLLL!!!! She went NUUUUTS!!!

Moral of the story? Always check out other girls with your man... point them out to him. This will make you more aware of his taste and what he likes and dislikes (in terms of beauty, dress, and all), and makes you more confident and less cocky about him checking out other women.

[Stella]

Abir dear thanks for sharing your experience!:)

Originally Posted by AbirWard

..the only way I deal with it is by not only ignoring the person checking me out (except if it is a girl :P) but also by pouring my entire attention on my guy (and lavishing him with love).

This is such a nice attitude:)
By the way you are right, I always notice in a second if a girl is checking me out, but of course that is of entirely other reason than a men checking me out:p

However, the only reason it did was because the guy I was with reciprocated the looks... I thought that this was cheap and cheesy, but again, he was cheap and cheesy and it was a very very good riddance (You'll get it Stell ;))

Sure And it was a good riddance indeed.

Moral of the story? Always check out other girls with your man... point them out to him. This will make you more aware of his taste and what he likes and dislikes (in terms of beauty, dress, and all), and makes you more confident and less cocky about him checking out other women.

Dont you girls always check upon the other girls when in a club for example? Isnt it by instinct?:D
Nice tip though, checking out the guys and girls together and then having fun about it!:p

[Superman]

Originally Posted by Stella

How do you handle such situations when you see that someone is flirting with your bf/gf? Take for example you are out in a restaurant, or in a club, sitting at a table, and you notice someone is trying to flirt with your baby.
Like what will you do if a nice/sexy lady obviously smiling constantly at your bf, or a handsome guy is staring at your gf in a flagrant way?

Will you go around teasing with this each others, meaning both of you will start flirting around while you are out together? How would you react if your gf/bf is welcoming these flirtatous looks, or even reciprocating?

I am curious to know your opinions or personal experiences, as I heard this attitude is quite typical in Lebanon.

Well it does happen a lot in Lebanon and those who are close minded pick fights out of such things...
Me? If I was out with my gf and someone was looking at her or maybe flirting, I'd laugh with her about it.
Plus, I'd be happy knowing that my gf is getting attention without even seeking it. She's just being herself, the beautiful girl she is in my opinion, and people are noticing her and all their eyes are on her. I'm an open minded guy who will smile when someone looks at my gf

And if she does welcome these looks, I won't pick up a fight or anything of that sort... Just like experiences in life have taught me, I would simply walk away from her without even looking back at her...

[marisha]

Originally Posted by AbirWard

I pointed out one for her and said: "My hubby will like this one better." She asked: "How do you know?" I said: "Cause I know his taste for I point out girls to him (beautiful ones) and ask him of his opinion, and we admire them together!" When I asked my husband about which one he prefers, he chose the one I said he'll like. When my husband in turn asked my friend's husband about the girl he thinks is more beautiful, he refrained from answering, but when pressed, he pointed out one girl....
Moral of the story? Always check out other girls with your man... point them out to him. This will make you more aware of his taste and what he likes and dislikes (in terms of beauty, dress, and all), and makes you more confident and less cocky about him checking out other women.

Abir, you are so right! We also do this together!! It is much more fun. I think the man should be also your pal, your best friend. Discussing these matters make everything easier and transparent. That's how we both see it :D