Routine & Love

[Inanna]

Originally Posted by GeneralDave

Thanks for your sincere advice. I avoided this state with my fiance but who knows what the future does hide...We should be always aware and ready.
And Yes True Love does defeat all kinds of routine.

what you call now routine will be later on your way of living! i mean by that! you will be doing the following: waking up at a certain time, going to work, coming back at precise time! you'll be dead tired and want to spend the rest of your time at home, in front of your tv! your body will even get used to sleep at the same time! this is how life will be!
but like chief said a flower or a gadget can break this routine, going out on week ends, a day out would help! and maybe if someone can afford it, a trip every year is excellent!
if there's love and affection things should be ok!
wish u the best you and journaliste!

[Arze]

Originally Posted by Inanna

what you call now routine will be later on your way of living! i mean by that! you will be doing the following: waking up at a certain time, going to work, coming back at precise time! you'll be dead tired and want to spend the rest of your time at home, in front of your tv! your body will even get used to sleep at the same time! this is how life will be!
but like chief said a flower or a gadget can break this routine, going out on week ends, a day out would help! and maybe if someone can afford it, a trip every year is excellent!
if there's love and affection things should be ok!
wish u the best you and journaliste!

I agree with what Inanna says,,, A trip,, ask mjareb,,, Every year me & my husband we renew our honeymoon... Its for a change and refreshing the relation... like that you'll be away of everything,, tete a tete...

No one can run away from routine,, all our life is routine...

[coralie]

a trip once a year is an idea,a good one of course but is it what makes the boring routine away ??? i dont think so what if this tete a tete is empty , both cant find any subject to talk about , what if even in hotel room in a new decore you feel that nothing is atracting you , the same person is infront of you with the same attitude the same words the same gestures !!! ???? would you call this a change ??? well when we are young and in love we dream and see things in the colors of the rainbow but as i said before love fades away if we stop wanting to discover the other the trip will be just a change of scenary nothing more ! but once we come back soon the same feeling of emptiness will be back the routine will take over cause the main cause was never treated the proper way ! we see many couples traveling some times ppl envy them and yet when we look at them they are unhappy and bored to death we wonder why saying walaw they just came back from a trip and they are so unsatisfied and sort of sad !!! we never go deeper into this issue we fail to see the right reason , they still love eachother they still care but something between them is missing ! this something is what im talking about , the fire , the desire , the will to discover again and again the other ,to comunicate, to share, to listen we simply take the other for granted and this can sometimes kill !!!

[Arze]

Originally Posted by coralie

a trip once a year is an idea,a good one of course but is it what makes the boring routine away ??? i dont think so what if this tete a tete is empty , both cant find any subject to talk about , what if even in hotel room in a new decore you feel that nothing is atracting you , the same person is infront of you with the same attitude the same words the same gestures !!! ???? would you call this a change ???

Dear,, if this is the case,, than the pb is not the routine,,, the pb is much bigger

[Chrysostomos]

Originally Posted by Inanna

what you call now routine will be later on your way of living! i mean by that! you will be doing the following: waking up at a certain time, going to work, coming back at precise time! you'll be dead tired and want to spend the rest of your time at home, in front of your tv! your body will even get used to sleep at the same time! this is how life will be!

I am going to uni on the morning and to work on the afternoon everyday at the same time ,but everytime i try to innovate something in order to avoid the routine.

Originally Posted by Inanna

but like chief said a flower or a gadget can break this routine, going out on week ends, a day out would help! and maybe if someone can afford it, a trip every year is excellent!

Yes of course , and that's what we are doing.
As i said before, i am looking toward the future...katter kheir Allah we didn't taste the routine yet though we are getting ready to face it whenever it comes.

Originally Posted by Inanna

if there's love and affection things should be ok!
wish u the best you and journaliste!

Things are more than ok thanks to God.
With you all the best too

[Inanna]

Originally Posted by coralie

a trip once a year is an idea,a good one of course but is it what makes the boring routine away ??? i dont think so what if this tete a tete is empty , both cant find any subject to talk about , what if even in hotel room in a new decore you feel that nothing is atracting you , the same person is infront of you with the same attitude the same words the same gestures !!! ???? would you call this a change ??? well when we are young and in love we dream and see things in the colors of the rainbow but as i said before love fades away if we stop wanting to discover the other the trip will be just a change of scenary nothing more ! but once we come back soon the same feeling of emptiness will be back the routine will take over cause the main cause was never treated the proper way ! we see many couples traveling some times ppl envy them and yet when we look at them they are unhappy and bored to death we wonder why saying walaw they just came back from a trip and they are so unsatisfied and sort of sad !!! we never go deeper into this issue we fail to see the right reason , they still love eachother they still care but something between them is missing ! this something is what im talking about , the fire , the desire , the will to discover again and again the other ,to comunicate, to share, to listen we simply take the other for granted and this can sometimes kill !!!

carol thnaks for opening our eyes to the real world!
i mean maybe we're scared to see things the way they are till they hit us in the future!
i think if there's something we can't accpet in that person we have to be sincere with him! he desreves to know the truth and we deserve to find what we want!
it happens a lot carol~ you think that time will change things, but whn they change its always to the worst!
i really think we should all read your words, cos there's wisdom and truth in them! thanks for that call!

[Arze]

Originally Posted by Inanna

carol thnaks for opening our eyes to the real world!
i mean maybe we're scared to see things the way they are till they hit us in the future!
i think if there's something we can't accpet in that person we have to be sincere with him! he desreves to know the truth and we deserve to find what we want!
it happens a lot carol~ you think that time will change things, but whn they change its always to the worst!
i really think we should all read your words, cos there's wisdom and truth in them! thanks for that call!

I don't agree,,,,

the issues that Carolie mentioned are not related to routine,, its exceeding long way back the routine,,, when we don't have nothing to talk about,, or to share,,, that's mean that we have a huge gap between the couples,,, a misscommunication,,, or desire,,, or something else,,,

For me,,, Routine is something totally different,,,
or maybe I'm so positive :) which is not wrong...

[coralie]

Originally Posted by Arzé

I don't agree,,,,

the issues that Carolie mentioned are not related to routine,, its exceeding long way back the routine,,, when we don't have nothing to talk about,, or to share,,, that's mean that we have a huge gap between the couples,,, a misscommunication,,, or desire,,, or something else,,,

For me,,, Routine is something totally different,,,
or maybe I'm so positive :) which is not wrong...

Arze i know what im talking about and i guess my long marital life can allow me to make such a statement looking around me and having friends with the same amount of years married and saying the same thing im saying just proves my point i did nt go search for that in fantasy world its coming from experience not a short one but rather a long one ! routine exist of course it does but its up to us to let it take over in a boring way or to let it be pleasant on the long run . if we let go it will kill every thing beautiful in a relation ! thats all im saying !

[Arze]

Originally Posted by coralie

Arze i know what im talking about and i guess my long marital life can allow me to make such a statement looking around me and having friends with the same amount of years married and saying the same thing im saying just proves my point i did nt go search for that in fantasy world its coming from experience not a short one but rather a long one ! routine exist of course it does but its up to us to let it take over in a boring way or to let it be pleasant on the long run . if we let go it will kill every thing beautiful in a relation ! thats all im saying !

Ok good iza heik... I'm married since long time as well ... I'm not talking about u in person,, so don't take the issues personal... I didn't say that your searching in fantazy,, so plz don't put the word in my mouth...
I didn't denied the routine,, if you will re-read my message,, you can see that..

Anyway,,,Everyone has his points of view,,, and I respect yours..

Cheer up ma fi chi bye7roz

[Arze]

Originally Posted by GeneralDave

I appreciate all your replies...me and journaliste didn't get into this situation yet but i was thinking about the future and i am really glad that you've helped me so much guys.
God bless

GeneralDave,,,

my adv to you in your relation,, you & Journalist,, is to be urself,,, be normal,, don't act,, and don't pretend,,, All the best ,, say hi to journaliste on my behalf..

Cheers