Routine & Love

[Chrysostomos]

Hello everybody.
I just want to ask about the routine in love relationships ...what is its effect on the couple?How can we avoid it? Will it destroy the feeling of Love or decrease it? If it'll decrease it only...how can this feeling rise again and strengthen the relationship between the couple?

[lebanon4ever]

first,sincere talks should be held between the couple in order to negociate the resons of this routine:why it is there?when it began?...

Second,you cannot avoid the routine,it is something that all our life is based on it:routine can be avoid only when you are in school or university,each year you meet new people new teachers and other class rooms.So mainly our life is constituted from things repeating itself.

Third,about the feeling of love.wekk i ask you :how do you identifie love?is it only sensations?or it is something related to love and mind as well?
routine for me is a very important thing,it makes both,the guy and th egirl be more mature and know how to deal with their relationship.
Dont you think that our parents had felt the routine long time ago?so why they are still together?
mainly because they have committed and have made their promise that they will be together.
I know a simple relationship is not that important as marriage,but if you really like the other person and if you really thinks that she continues your soul well don't be afraid.

fourth,about the feelings,well time will tell.give everything to time,i am so sure that the love flame will burn again the lovers hearts,so just relie on time.

Finally,if you think that there is a lot of routine goin on,both should try to get away a little,and review everything that happenned during the relationship,everyone alone,and ask yourself if this girl is worth enough to continue that relationship...
Here the mind play its role because the person must think,put some objectives for the relation,and try to look a little ahead in the future.

[Arze]

Each routine is unique in it’s own manner but also similar in some areas,, and routine is everywhere, not only in love... and yes,, routine would destroy relashionship

When you do the same thing everyday,, u will feel bored,, and you will fell into Routine,,,

Romance often fades when a relationship becomes routine and the partners begin to take each other for granted

To avoid this,, you should be creative ( Man & Woman),,

• Giving your partners flowers or small gifts for no reason can also recharge your romance.
• Taking care in your own appearance
• Complimenting your partner
• A dinner date makes it feel much more special

Cheers/Arze:logo:

[Inanna]

Originally Posted by Arzé

• Giving your partners flowers or small gifts for no reason can also recharge your romance.
• Taking care in your own appearance
• Complimenting your partner
• A dinner date makes it feel much more special

Cheers/Arze:logo:

yea and also going out to different places!
travelling from time to time!

but i think u get used to this routine and it becomes the best part of ur life! like sometimes i feel my parents can't wait to be back home, each one on his seat, watch the "crime night" at night, drink their nescafe/tea and always say "home sweet home"!

[Arze]

Originally Posted by Inanna

yea and also going out to different places!
travelling from time to time!

but i think u get used to this routine and it becomes the best part of ur life! like sometimes i feel my parents can't wait to be back home, each one on his seat, watch the "crime night" at night, drink their nescafe/tea and always say "home sweet home"!

Yes Inanna,,

You can't avoid routine all time,,, but when you'll face a problem,,, you should do something...especially in your relationship...

I can't compare myself with my parents,, and with their way to live,,,

Our generation is totally different..

Don't you agree with me???

Cheers/Arze

[Orangina]

Nice subject general dave!

Well...a love relationship between a woman and a man passes through different preriods:

The beginning of love: it is the period of passion, the period when we want that the other likes us, when we want him to love us, so we do everything we do to just keep him happy with us...It is the best period in a relationship! no routine, lot of fun...We are happy, full of life, we want to show everyone that we are in love...

Then after a while, things become different...we get used to know each other, we get use to do lot of things together..some people call this routine, I call it stability in a relation!

Woman and man at this period think differently, they love each other differently, their relation is more stable and wiser! they become to think to their future together, to what they want to do together

After marriage....Love grow up! it becomes like a dependance between two persons! the man depends of his wife, and the woman depends of her husband...They face life's problems together, they have responsablities together, especially when they have kids!

Love exist always, but it grow up, like a child! and this is why love is fantastic!

Don't worry general dave....Your love will still shining in your life, and don't be affraid from changement!

Good luck

[coralie]

love always start with a certain passion. what makes this passion burn like fire ???? its the need to discover the other person, to find out about even smalest things concerning her /him, what he/she likes and how he/she likes this or that , creativity and imagination works at its full power during this period , we always need to find something that will atract the other person ! ......
times has its own way to work on ppls feelings and ideas the more time pass the more we get use to our partner (lover, wife, husband ..) the routine come inside this relation when we stop the discovering , when we start to think that our partner is here with us so its ok same same !!!
ppl change all the time and we always faill to see that, and we think we know them well but this is wrong , thru th years men change as well as women and when we take eachother for granted. when we stop talking ,wondering and discovering the changes , we will be going into the boring stage of routine !
a relation must always be a dicovering adventure of the other , a mystery we look forward to pierce ..... that what keep love growing within us not grow apart from us !
we should always find a way to put new attraction to our daily life small things can make a diffrence , dialogue , always sharing activities as meaningless as they can be , surprises from time to time put spices into a relation ! always keep the dicovering adventure a part of ur relationship !

[Chrysostomos]

I appreciate all your replies...me and journaliste didn't get into this situation yet but i was thinking about the future and i am really glad that you've helped me so much guys.
God bless

[Chief]

Dave,

Here's my opinion out of personal experience(s)

When you truly love, when you r deeply in love and I mean real love, you will never fall in the routine trap.

Routine doesnt exist in the relations that r based on :

- Understanding
- Trust
- Love (capital L)
- Respect (capital R)

however, if routine happens try to innovate in your daily lives. Sometimes, a simple gadget breaks it, a walk on the beach, a red rose...

Try to come out with ideas out of the box and you will break it

C H I E F
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[Chrysostomos]

Originally Posted by Chief

Dave,

Here's my opinion out of personal experience(s)

When you truly love, when you r deeply in love and I mean real love, you will never fall in the routine trap.

Routine doesnt exist in the relations that r based on :

- Understanding
- Trust
- Love (capital L)
- Respect (capital R)

however, if routine happens try to innovate in your daily lives. Sometimes, a simple gadget breaks it, a walk on the beach, a red rose...

Try to come out with ideas out of the box and you will break it

C H I E F
:logo:

Thanks for your sincere advice. I avoided this state with my fiance but who knows what the future does hide...We should be always aware and ready.
And Yes True Love does defeat all kinds of routine.