Is marriage necessary

[Stella]

I am too idealist to believe in marriage.

[Elyane El Helou]

NO it is not necessary at all, in fact marriage is the number one killer of love...

[none]

as long as u didnt find the right person yet it's not ....
i would prefer to saty alone the rest of my life better then having a "nikde "wife

[GMA forever]

Originally Posted by faithful

So why u do blame marriage???? .

There are questions my dear faithful, where you know the answer from experience, but yet cannot transmit it with the right words. Out of experience, and not just a personal one, marriage killed love of 99,99% of the people I know. Ya3ne a la syrian baath regime if you like

Here is my answer for you, I blame Marriage kills love, because marriage is like the syrian baath regime.

Now don't get me wrong, marriage provides many good things like security, wa7ad y23oud 3a2il , sorry couldn't find it right in english...... btu we are talking about love here, and I bet you find me any couple that after just 5 years of marriage, if they still have love?? Heuh?? They may have respect, friendship, but I don't think love will live between them anymore.

[Stella]

Originally Posted by GMA forever

Now don't get me wrong, marriage provides many good things like security,

Like a false illusion of safety?

btu we are talking about love here, and I bet you find me any couple that after just 5 years of marriage, if they still have love?? Heuh?? They may have respect, friendship, but I don't think love will live between them anymore.

I cant report any successful marriages from my family, or environment neither, they like all went wrong after a point, and what keeps them together is everything but love.

So again, when will we finally abandon the crazy idea of this outdated institution?

[GMA forever]

Originally Posted by Stella

Like a false illusion of safety??

Absolutely!

Originally Posted by Stella

I cant report any successful marriages from my family, or environment neither, they like all went wrong after a point, and what keeps them together is everything but love.

So again, when will we finally abandon the crazy idea of this outdated institution?

Nowhere. It is in all the cultures and all the world. As you said, what keeps couples together is everything except love.

Abndoning though will take a while I guess

[coralie]

Originally Posted by GMA forever

There are questions my dear faithful, where you know the answer from experience, but yet cannot transmit it with the right words. Out of experience, and not just a personal one, marriage killed love of 99,99% of the people I know. Ya3ne a la syrian baath regime if you like

Here is my answer for you, I blame Marriage kills love, because marriage is like the syrian baath regime.

Now don't get me wrong, marriage provides many good things like security, wa7ad y23oud 3a2il , sorry couldn't find it right in english...... btu we are talking about love here, and I bet you find me any couple that after just 5 years of marriage, if they still have love?? Heuh?? They may have respect, friendship, but I don't think love will live between them anymore.

again and again you have my vote !!!
baath regime ..LOOOOOL..... you beat me with that one never thought of this comparison before

[Kakou]

Originally Posted by sarah_32

Only an insecure person wont get married :) when u'r not sure of ur feelings or ur dont know if ur gona love this other person all ur life or stand him/her u dont think of marriage .. because once u get married u'r committed to someone and if u decide not 2 it means u cant stand commitment

I was waiting until I finish reading all of the posts to say that!! ONLY UNSECURE PEOPLE WON'T GET MARRIED!!..
They can't make a decision!! They can't find out if they really trust their partner or not!! YOU HAVE TO TEST YOUR PARTNER IN RESPONSABILITY!! IS HE READY ENOUGH OR DOES HE LOVE YOU ENOUGH WHEN IT'S A RESPONSABILITY MATTER!! I may spend all my life with a guy (or girl), having fun, sex, good times... Not causing trouble to each other, we could spend lifetime together!! But, am I sure that we will stay together if responsabilities grow??!! This is where LOVE degree is measured!!

Further more, when you need to talk about something, base your analysis and comments on a personal experience not on others' ones!! Others may fail where you can succeed and vice versa!! Don't try marriage as a product!! Make a decision based on your FEELINGS and on YOUR self experience!!

I know I'm elaborating vainly!! Those who think that Marriage kills love will change their mind one day and NOT NOW, when they meet the right person (I don't mean an IDEAL one- The right one is the one who really cares about me and who really loves me!)!!!

THIS IS BASED ON A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE!!

Enjoy trying!!

[Faithful]

Originally Posted by GMA forever

There are questions my dear faithful, where you know the answer from experience, but yet cannot transmit it with the right words. Out of experience, and not just a personal one, marriage killed love of 99,99% of the people I know. Ya3ne a la syrian baath regime if you like

Here is my answer for you, I blame Marriage kills love, because marriage is like the syrian baath regime.

Now don't get me wrong, marriage provides many good things like security, wa7ad y23oud 3a2il , sorry couldn't find it right in english...... btu we are talking about love here, and I bet you find me any couple that after just 5 years of marriage, if they still have love?? Heuh?? They may have respect, friendship, but I don't think love will live between them anymore.

Dear GMA Forever,

What is the definition of marriage and love in your dictionary (Arabic translation)??????

What I am sure of is that when 2 persons are in true love, they always want to live together. Agree with me 3ala haydeh???
When they do: Means commitment and acceptance.

We have 3 options:

- Cohabitation
- Civil Marriage
- Religious Marriage

What is the result?
Cohabitation needs nothing, just move to the same house
Civil and religious marriage need to sign papers just to be legally married and to follow some rules.

What is happening during the first five years??

Do u want to convince me that the persons that cohabited, still in love with each other with no problems, no changes, no worries, and feel “la vie en rose” ?????
Because they didn’t sign papers???
And if they get legally married: love is vanished, love is dead, and your not able to support each other. ??. and you feel disappointed because marriage had separated you?????

Still don’t understand chou khass al marriage ???????
Tell me GMA what is the difference between cohabite and marriage????
Isn’t the papers??????

What I wanted to tell you ,
Marriage is a result not a cause.

Love is love, whenever u get married or not, people changes whenever u get married or not, there will always be a lot of problems and misunderstanding, whenever u get married or not. You must learn how to deal with.

First we have to learn how to love ya GMA and to choose the right person and to accept her as she is.
we have to learn how to look past imperfections in our partner and seeing the beautiful person inside.
we must learn that loving a person means to give before to get, to respect before getting respect, to understand before being understand.

When you love someone “a true love” not a passion love or just a physically attraction, you will see how u can get married and be always in love with your partner not only for 5 years but to death. And I bet you,

Just try to know what marriage and love really means, because a few person know how deep love is.

True and deep love never dies Ya GMA.

W ma titshabbas (am i talking to a men or to a girl?)

[Kakou]

Originally Posted by faithful

Dear GMA Forever,

What is the definition of marriage and love in your dictionary (Arabic translation)??????

What I am sure of is that when 2 persons are in true love, they always want to live together. Agree with me 3ala haydeh???
When they do: Means commitment and acceptance.

We have 3 options:

- Cohabitation
- Civil Marriage
- Religious Marriage

What is the result?
Cohabitation needs nothing, just move to the same house
Civil and religious marriage need to sign papers just to be legally married and to follow some rules.

What is happening during the first five years??

Do u want to convince me that the persons that cohabited, still in love with each other with no problems, no changes, no worries, and feel “la vie en rose” ?????
Because they didn’t sign papers???
And if they get legally married: love is vanished, love is dead, and your not able to support each other. ??. and you feel disappointed because marriage had separated you?????

Still don’t understand chou khass al marriage ???????
Tell me GMA what is the difference between cohabite and marriage????
Isn’t the papers??????

What I wanted to tell you ,
Marriage is a result not a cause.

Love is love, whenever u get married or not, people changes whenever u get married or not, there will always be a lot of problems and misunderstanding, whenever u get married or not. You must learn how to deal with.

First we have to learn how to love ya GMA and to choose the right person and to accept her as she is.
we have to learn how to look past imperfections in our partner and seeing the beautiful person inside.
we must learn that loving a person means to give before to get, to respect before getting respect, to understand before being understand.

When you love someone “a true love” not a passion love or just a physically attraction, you will see how u can get married and be always in love with your partner not only for 5 years but to death.

And I bet you, just try to know what marriage and love really means, because a few person sknow how deep love is.

W ma titshabbas (am i talking to a men or to a girl?)

WELL FAITHFUL, are you married?????????
I'm not asking for YOUR HAND, because I AM!! HA HA HA!!
Did you read my post (just before yours)? I think that we think the same way concerning this QUESTION!!