Is marriage necessary - The Orange Room

roberthoffman

Hi People,

As we grow up our parents come running after us to get married. Is it really neccessary to get married? I cant understand why is it required that we should have a stamp in a realtionship so that other can understand that me and my love are really in love.

I mean y cant let the relationship be as it is going : no bars, no holds, wish as you want.

Well according to me only insecure persons get married. I mean if you love a person and have in him/her then why is it necessary to have it been written on stamp paper ? People say Marriage is a holy relationship, it is about faith, it is about trust, it is about spending entire life with someone. So if we are having trust in someone then why is it necessary to get married and to make that person get bound to us.

So acc to me bottomline is : Only 'INSECURE' persons get married. bcoz they know that their relationshipis not strong enough to keep their partners with them.

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Lebanese_dream

Personnally, I assume living with my man all my life without marriage! I can live in instability! I will be the only one to pay the consequences if he changes his path one day!

But, the day I will decide to have children! In order to protect my family and especially my children, I will get married!

You can call it insecurity, or whatever you want! But to live in security and stability when you have children is the minimum you can offer to them if you really care about them because nobody knows what will happen!

Imagine you died from a day to another, you have children, you weren't expecting this and you didn't write a will! Your family can take all your heritage and your children can't profit from it execpt you did something legal for them before!And there is many other exemples...

Then don't forget that in Lebanon we are conservative and most of us have religious believes or society customs! And marriage is necessary for most of us!
Then, living with your bf with no official relationship is not frequent in LEbanon as Abroad! It's not well seen by the society!

3i3o

First, I have to say I’m shocked…I always thought Indian people is conservative.

Second, as you said, we were raised on the theory that every final and formal relationship must be between the boundaries of marriage, so I believe it is positive to accomplish what we planned to do ( or planned to and dreamt of for girls)…

And this stamp that you’re talking about, it’s not just a signature by some bureaucratic man, it is a symbol that you are officially with this (and to) this woman…

So, my friend beleive in marriage.

lady_forever

if you love someone and wanna raise a family i mean have kids yes marriage is nesseccary you cant have kids without being married ....its not to assure that he or she wont leave one the other as lots of divorces taking place these days but cause ur kids wont be officially considered as urs..well i didnt put the rules..but i believe in marriage to legalise ur parantal name to them

emile · 10:26 PM

Marriage (religious marriage) is the union of two souls with God as your witness. It is a lifetime union, no going back.

Oh and if you ask me, you have to be really secure with the person you love to be able to marry that person.

People who dont want to get married are the ones who are Insecure, because they are scared to commit.

sarah_32

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Originally Posted by roberthoffman

Hi People,

As we grow up our parents come running after us to get married. Is it really neccessary to get married? I cant understand why is it required that we should have a stamp in a realtionship so that other can understand that me and my love are really in love.

I mean y cant let the relationship be as it is going : no bars, no holds, wish as you want.

Well according to me only insecure persons get married. I mean if you love a person and have in him/her then why is it necessary to have it been written on stamp paper ? People say Marriage is a holy relationship, it is about faith, it is about trust, it is about spending entire life with someone. So if we are having trust in someone then why is it necessary to get married and to make that person get bound to us.

So acc to me bottomline is : Only 'INSECURE' persons get married. bcoz they know that their relationshipis not strong enough to keep their partners with them.

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Always sell a 'SPEAR' and a 'SHEILD' and say:-

The 'Spear' would pierce anything.....&

The 'Sheild' wont let anything through itself......

Only an insecure person wont get married :) when u'r not sure of ur feelings or ur dont know if ur gona love this other person all ur life or stand him/her u dont think of marriage .. because once u get married u'r committed to someone and if u decide not 2 it means u cant stand commitment

GMA forever

I think marriage is a failed institution. I know it might be a shock for many here, but I believe marriage kills love between 2 people.

coralie

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Originally Posted by GMA forever

I think marriage is a failed institution. I know it might be a shock for many here, but I believe marriage kills love between 2 people.

you have my Vote for that !

marriage is a simple organisation to put some order in human existence thats all . it is what human need to stabilise a certain relation or let me say legalise it !
marriage is a commitment and humans this days are less and less commited to succeed in fullfilling this commitment . so why do we have to go thrue all this paper work and complicate our existence ?

if 2 persons are in love and happy this is all it takes to make their relation succeed . as for kids look at europeen countries they have the concubinage law that allow and give rights to the kids born from a non marital couples and kids can have either the name of the mother or the father or both and the same rights (heritage and all )! so where is the problem ?

Faithful

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Originally Posted by GMA forever

I think marriage is a failed institution. I know it might be a shock for many here, but I believe marriage kills love between 2 people.

mmmmmmmmmm

A successful Marriage depends on two things: finding the right person and being the right person.

Don't blame marriage on something u are responsible for.
You must know first what marriage really means.

Not everyone can have a happy marriage because not everyone accept to give up his freedom and to share his life with another person.
Not everyone can love a person the way he is and not the way they want him to be.
Not everyone can do a Commitment for life.
Not everyone is trying to Understand the other person and to accept him, to forgive him......

There is a million of things that can be responsible to a unsucceed marriage. But this does not mean that marriage is a failed insitution, it means that we can not handle this new situation , it is our mistake.

"A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short." Which is so true.

lady_forever

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Originally Posted by coralie

you have my Vote for that !

marriage is a simple organisation to put some order in human existence thats all . it is what human need to stabilise a certain relation or let me say legalise it !
marriage is a commitment and humans this days are less and less commited to succeed in fullfilling this commitment . so why do we have to go thrue all this paper work and complicate our existence ?

if 2 persons are in love and happy this is all it takes to make their relation succeed . as for kids look at europeen countries they have the concubinage law that allow and give rights to the kids born from a non marital couples and kids can have either the name of the mother or the father or both and the same rights (heritage and all )! so where is the problem ?

I agree with you Coralie marriage sometimes kill love and one will take the other for granted ..but unfortunately we dont live in Europe we live in Lebanon so our kids wont be legal in our country no church no one will admit that soooo...the question what to do???