How to Fire a Friend - The Orange Room

coralie

Whether your friend has become a menace or just an annoyance, invading or simply nosy , it is kind of difficult to find the right way to put an end to this disturbing situation .
The social process of ending friendship is a tricky one.
Talking about getting away from an undesirable person in job terminology is one way to face up to it yourself, but the actual nuts and bolts of getting this individual at least part way out of your life can be harder than you think.
what will be the steps you will follow to fire your friend , will this put an end to your friendship ? or things between you two can continue as you can seperate between business and friendship ?

Zouxi

Just ignore him/her gradually he/she will notice (iza 3endo/a zaw2:biggrin) that he/she is not welcome anymore in your life..

besides, i believe that this should not make a big deal given the fact that he/she doesn't mean anything to you anymore and therefore you can get rid of him/her but in a polite way...

supersonichadi

Quote:

Originally Posted by coralie

Whether your friend has become a menace or just an annoyance, invading or simply nosy , it is kind of difficult to find the right way to put an end to this disturbing situation .
The social process of ending friendship is a tricky one.
Talking about getting away from an undesirable person in job terminology is one way to face up to it yourself, but the actual nuts and bolts of getting this individual at least part way out of your life can be harder than you think.
what will be the steps you will follow to fire your friend , will this put an end to your friendship ? or things between you two can continue as you can seperate between business and friendship ?

Ignoring him is the best thing for cases like these, by time you will be still speaking to each other but not like the same you were before.

shadow1

Quote:

Originally Posted by coralie

Whether your friend has become a menace or just an annoyance, invading or simply nosy , it is kind of difficult to find the right way to put an end to this disturbing situation .
The social process of ending friendship is a tricky one.
Talking about getting away from an undesirable person in job terminology is one way to face up to it yourself, but the actual nuts and bolts of getting this individual at least part way out of your life can be harder than you think.
what will be the steps you will follow to fire your friend , will this put an end to your friendship ? or things between you two can continue as you can seperate between business and friendship ?

There is nothing more important to do at such situation than being totally honest as to why you are firing this friend. Honesty mitigates the effect of their surprise.
Is it because he/she are not doing their job properly or simply because they are annoying?
In the first case, I would be kind, understanding and tell the person why he is not good for the business and more importantly explain to them why. And if possible provide them with enough financial support to give them a chance to find alternative work.

If it is the second case because he/she are annoying, I wish you would give us the juicy details . We might then have better advice.

Now Will the friedship survive this act of meanness and betrayl? Hey some friends take that as a personal insult as if it is not the right of the person to do what's right for him/herself. I

n any case one must get ready to lose them. Besides one needs to change friends every now and then for lack of novelty.
Hey it's not like there are not many people out there dying to be our friends.

We feel bad about it for couple of weeks especially if we see them. I dont think it's nice seeing someone one hasnt been kind to. Avoid them at all cost and you'll be OK. Or even give them the false promise that they may need you one day. A bit weasely but it does wonders for the guilt feeling.

Dont feel too bad about it. Friedships are in a way like business, they are more useful when they are profitable.

JulesK

Ignore the **** out of them and they'll get the message sooner or later

coralie

Quote:

Originally Posted by shadow1

There is nothing more important to do at such situation than being totally honest as to why you are firing this friend. Honesty mitigates the effect of their surprise.
Is it because he/she are not doing their job properly or simply because they are annoying?
In the first case, I would be kind, understanding and tell the person why he is not good for the business and more importantly explain to them why. And if possible provide them with enough financial support to give them a chance to find alternative work.

If it is the second case because he/she are annoying, I wish you would give us the juicy details . We might then have better advice.

Now Will the friedship survive this act of meanness and betrayl? Hey some friends take that as a personal insult as if it is not the right of the person to do what's right for him/herself. I

n any case one must get ready to lose them. Besides one needs to change friends every now and then for lack of novelty.
Hey it's not like there are not many people out there dying to be our friends.

We feel bad about it for couple of weeks especially if we see them. I dont think it's nice seeing someone one hasnt been kind to. Avoid them at all cost and you'll be OK. Or even give them the false promise that they may need you one day. A bit weasely but it does wonders for the guilt feeling.

Dont feel too bad about it. Friedships are in a way like business, they are more useful when they are profitable.

we do miss the thank you button

oh it surely was not meant to be a personal case but we were talking about that issue few days ago with friends and i just found it a good subject to discuss ...

if it was me in this position i am tooooo straight forward, i will simply say what is on my mind what is bothering me, we will discuss the problem nevertheless i will never be rude and will never ignore the person specialy if it is business unless they start first how can i ignore a person who works in my office ? if the friend is willing to change his/her attitude fine with me the chance is given if i feel no positive reaction i will have to be firm and put an end to his/her presence in the staff ...

i try to draw a line between the 2 things work and friendship , but it is never easy i must admit to tell a friend : sorry but you will have to find another job you no longer fit in our firm ! by the way i was clever enough not to hire friends or relatives in my business to avoide this kind of situations !
ignoring the person is not a solution how can you ignore a person you work with in the same office it will envenom the whole atmosphere in the office and i think i will not be able to endure the stress , to deal all day long with an annoying person is simply beyond my capacity ! bkhaf tayerli chi manfada heik heik ala rasso/a LOL.... so honesty is best policy je prend le diable par les cornes !

however i will have to disagree with your last sentence shadow, friendship on a personal level is not equivalent to a business it is not a profitable thing maybe thats why i dont have many real friends i will use a better word to describe it : acquaintances . friends/frienship is a very valuable relation at least this is how i see it .

lady_forever

Quote:

Originally Posted by coralie

Whether your friend has become a menace or just an annoyance, invading or simply nosy , it is kind of difficult to find the right way to put an end to this disturbing situation .
The social process of ending friendship is a tricky one.
Talking about getting away from an undesirable person in job terminology is one way to face up to it yourself, but the actual nuts and bolts of getting this individual at least part way out of your life can be harder than you think.
what will be the steps you will follow to fire your friend , will this put an end to your friendship ? or things between you two can continue as you can seperate between business and friendship ?

the simplest way is to ignore him or her they will understand if they don't get the message then you should be frank and tell them face to face how you think about ending your friendship as it is annoying

Hye4Lebanon

Lessons learned....

Do not hire friends or family at your work place. Conflict of interests get in the way.

Dalzi

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zouxi

Just ignore him/her gradually he/she will notice (iza 3endo/a zaw2

) that he/she is not welcome anymore in your life..

2asdak eza 3endo 2e7ses :D.

Quote:

besides, i believe that this should not make a big deal given the fact that he/she doesn't mean anything to you anymore and therefore you can get rid of him/her but in a polite way...

"Get rid of him/her" and "in a polite way" contradict :D. Very difficult situation...

Chief

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hye4Lebanon

Lessons learned....

Do not hire friends or family at your work place. Conflict of interests get in the way.

Words of wisdom