Can u love more than one person? TOTW [16.10.06 -22.10.06]

[Coldplayer]

yes it is possible to love 2 persons at the same time, but not everyone can do that (I do not mean parental love).

[Stella]

Originally Posted by Coldplayer

yes it is possible to love 2 persons at the same time, but not everyone can do that (I do not mean parental love).

Are you speaking out of personal experience? Maybe you found 2 girls who didnt mind dating them both at the same time, and also loving them equally?

[Nadim]

Dating or getting attached to someone is different than loving ... you rarely can experience love at first stages .. I do not beleive love can be in the early stages. What you see as love, sometimes could be a ' 3adi' or attachment and this is very painful to get rid of. But to love someone , is when you are fully blinded. so it only occurs with one person.

[Coldplayer]

Originally Posted by Stella

Are you speaking out of personal experience? Maybe you found 2 girls who didnt mind dating them both at the same time, and also loving them equally?

Well it's not a personal experience which I had. And I am sure I cannot love 2 persons at the same time. All I meant is that there are people who has loved 2 persons at the same time (not attraction, i am saying LOVE).

[Stella]

Originally Posted by Coldplayer

Well it's not a personal experience which I had. And I am sure I cannot love 2 persons at the same time. All I meant is that there are people who has loved 2 persons at the same time (not attraction, i am saying LOVE).

And where are those persons cmon give details! Because if its just "you heard about it somewhere" is way too weak argument.
And how would you be ever sure what kind of love did they experience, whether it was merely an attraction and not Love in fact, when it is not your personal experience?
Anyway people can tell many things, and not even the half of those may be true.
Do you think our human mind at this stage is capable for loving 2 person equally devotedly, sincerely and full heartedly?

[Coldplayer]

Originally Posted by Stella

Do you think our human mind at this stage is capable for loving 2 person equally devotedly, sincerely and full heartedly?

Well equally devoted I don't think so.
Once I was arguing with a teacher of mine, she said that there is no way we love our mother and father equally. You may love the 2 and cannot live without the 2 of them, but still there is a prefference deep in the heart. I came to understand her by myself after some years. Same case here, you can love 2 persons, and still have a prefference for sure, and sometimes you cannot find this difference. Confusing huh?

[Fragrance of Roses]

Originally Posted by Stella

And where are those persons cmon give details! Because if its just "you heard about it somewhere" is way too weak argument.
And how would you be ever sure what kind of love did they experience, whether it was merely an attraction and not Love in fact, when it is not your personal experience?
Anyway people can tell many things, and not even the half of those may be true.
Do you think our human mind at this stage is capable for loving 2 person equally devotedly, sincerely and full heartedly?

EEEEEEEASY Stella!

Why not? What if one is schizophrenic?

I am just kidding... but I am in no way ready to deny that it could be possible! Have any studies been conducted on this?

There should be!

Maybe from a scientific point-of-view, it CAN happen!!! (Note that many Muslims marry 4 women and they claim to love them equally). So my question is... can men love more than one woman at the time while women cannot love more than one man at the time? Could it be in our genetic makeup?

I just wonder Stella... (There must be an explanation--or so we hope )

[Stella]

Originally Posted by AbirWard

EEEEEEEASY Stella!

Why not? What if one is schizophrenic?

I am just kidding... but I am in no way ready to deny that it could be possible! Have any studies been conducted on this?

There should be!

Maybe from a scientific point-of-view, it CAN happen!!! (Note that many Muslims marry 4 women and they claim to love them equally). So my question is... can men love more than one woman at the time while women cannot love more than one man at the time? Could it be in our genetic makeup?

I just wonder Stella... (There must be an explanation--or so we hope )

Oh noooooo Abir!! Why would men be granted such a privilege while women shall be glad with one man?

Seriously I think one can not love more person at a time, and we are speaking here about a relationship, just not to confuse.
Those muslim men who claim they love their 4 women equally, hm what shall they say after all in front of their women to not to **** them off?

As I said, our human mind at this stage i doubt is capable for loving more than one person at a time, and when it would be possible, that wont be that same love we are talking about now.

[Orange Patriot]

I dont claim to be an expert on love, but theres nothing within any of the millions of definitions of love that say that a requirement to feel love is that it is directed to one person.

Characterisitcs within the definition of love are things like:

Honesty
Having things in common
Being opposites
Being exactly the same
Trust
etc...

There are many more, but I think you can see my point. All of the above or anythign else one can add to that list can be felt from one person to two others.

i.e. you can be honest to two ppl. have thigns in common with two ppl. have trust between two ppl and so forth and so on.....

From this point of view...its possible...

Heres another thing...

If you can hate two different people... you can surely love two different people. ;)

I'm gonna copyright that.

[Stella]

Originally Posted by Orange Patriot

I dont claim to be an expert on love, but theres nothing within any of the millions of definitions of love that say that a requirement to feel love is that it is directed to one person.

Characterisitcs within the definition of love are things like:

Honesty
Having things in common
Being opposites
Being exactly the same
Trust
etc...

There are many more, but I think you can see my point. All of the above or anythign else one can add to that list can be felt from one person to two others.

i.e. you can be honest to two ppl. have thigns in common with two ppl. have trust between two ppl and so forth and so on.....

From this point of view...its possible...

Heres another thing...

If you can hate two different people... you can surely love two different people. ;)

I'm gonna copyright that.

OP, cmon, could you have two girlfriends at the same time, and claiming that you love them both with true love? Not to mention if the girls find out about each others, you think you would survive your lil adventure?:p:D

I stick to my opinion, true love you can not feel toward more than one person at a time. If if its not that kind of love, like attraction etc.. thats another case.