Can u love more than one person? TOTW [16.10.06 -22.10.06] - The Orange Room

roberthoffman

Ok, before you think too much about the question at hand, let me tell you a story.

Ok lets say you have a child withsomeone, you love that child with all your heart. Then a few years later you have another child. You love that child with all your heart too, you love both of them with all of your heart, they dont have to share your love, it is not like you like each of them with half your hear - what im getting at is that your ability to love is infinite.

Now why cant your ability to love multiple people apply to others? Why is it assumed that man can only (romantically) love one person?

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abientot

Actually you cannot compare, the two situations. Loving your child or you friend or a family member is very different from loving someone romantically!

In arabic there is a distinction between both, there is "7obb" and "ma7abbeh".
"ma7abbeh" is what you illustrated in your example, and you are right, our ability to love in that way is infinite.
But romantic love ("7obb") can only be felt towards one and only one person!
Imagine you have a girlfriend and you love her, if you fall in love with someone else it means that what you have towards you girl cannot be romantic anymore! it ended once u loved someone else, because when you are in deep love you simply dont think about loving someone else, unless what you share with your mate is no longer the love it used to be.

Regards!

rainman

no you cannot not love two persons at the same time, you can have an affair with 10 woman at the same time ( iza fiiiik :o) ) , but you can only love one woman at a time.

same thing applies to women.

you should deffirentiate between loving 2 women and having sex with them. i think you meant the second, good luck ( in both :P )

cheers

rainman

lady_forever

True you cant love two people at same time maybe u can be attracted but love is something totally different anyway i think that you will be able to differ that when ur really in love

coralie

parental love is diffrent then man/woman love as in a relation ! you can not compare them !
and yes some ppl can love more then one person at a time because each and every person fulfill or give him/her a part of his/her needs . may be it is not that often but it happens a lot !

Inanna

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Originally Posted by coralie

parental love is diffrent then man/woman love as in a relation ! you can not compare them !
and yes some ppl can love more then one person at a time because each and every person fulfill or give him/her a part of his/her needs . may be it is not that often but it happens a lot !

i dont know coralie! it shouldnt happen, but when it does it means that these 2 persons complete each other in a way or the other, it could be that one is sweet, the other a bit rougher...
and when you love 2 persons, you become completly lost, and you're not happy! lost... confused!
the best thing is to love one person (you dont decide it, it comes!) and when this person offers it all to you, there wont be a chance for someone else to enter your heart!

Gio · 11:47 AM

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parental love is diffrent then man/woman love as in a relation ! you can not compare them !
and yes some ppl can love more then one person at a time because each and every person fulfill or give him/her a part of his/her needs . may be it is not that often but it happens a lot !

I respectfully disagree. The situation you described is not love. It is only self-love and selfishness. When you love someone trully, it is unconditional, selfless and doesnt depend on them fulfilling half of you or two-thirds of you.

When you love the fact that a person fulfills half of your needs, you are not loving the person but the feeling that half of you is fulfilled.

Real love in my opinion is difficult to find.
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Stella

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Originally Posted by roberthoffman

Now why cant your ability to love multiple people apply to others? Why is it assumed that man can only (romantically) love one person?

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Care to explain your stance then!

But I second the members above, you cant divide your heart when it comes to love a woman, or else you dont love her actually that much that you would devoted yourself to her. Its not surprising though to hear such thing from a man, as men tend to run away from the slightest sign of showing some committment.

So did you mean actually to keep a harem? And define what means in your opinion to love a woman, it may not be that kind of love what we might think of.

caramel

You can't love two persons but you CAN get attached to two persons equally... when you do, you cannot call it love, because love is blind. And when ur in love, u seem to see everything wonderful about ur partner and not seing it about anyone else. when u reach the stage of love, u seem to view the one u love as "perfect" and therefore cannot see his qualities in anyone else in order to love equally.

Faithful

God is love

In both situation "7ob" w "Gharam", :

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

But when you are in love with someone ("maghroum ya3ni"), you stop searching for love in another person because you are satisfy from what you have and from what you feel and you think that this is "The Right Person".
you will remain faithful for him because you are happy and you don't want anyone else to get into your life , u refuse to change this situation.

It's very hard to find a person that you feel compatible with and let your heart beet everytime you saw him, so why should you look for someone else if your heart is happy and feeling in peace.?????

But i beleive that we can love more than one person not in the same time.
Ya3ni after a separation, Our heart will search for a new person to love, because this is what he needs the most, we can not live without love.
But be sure that you can not forget a person u loved. Every person will have a special place in your heart.