attractiveness

[supersonichadi]

Originally Posted by JulesK

Trok el hadame la s7aba
W ra7 etreklak el na2 (football games ring a bell?)

Tab bi sharafak ya Jules mesh mahdoom ana? i.e mesh attractive?

[orange infection]

Originally Posted by xena

and it depends on the people you're with actually!

here's the key
it depend on the other person that you're with

[lady_forever]

as for me inner attraction counts the most what is the use to be handsome and have bad character or aproach to people so you can attract people with your big heart and words

[fado]

There is a proverb that says bel masre "Bi3 el gamal washteri el kheffa" , translation: Sell ur beauty and buy hadame
I don't care how attractive a person is, if this person can't make me laugh or i don't find him interesting then he is out
So in my opinion atractivness has nothing to do with looks, it has to do with personality. Akid not only being funny, there are a lot of things that u mentionned before like self esteem, manners, respect and so on...But i think it differs from a person to another, maybe someone prefers a handsome guy who is not very funny over a "not so handsome guy" but funny. It depends who u are with.

[terror]

Originally Posted by coralie

thank you JulesK i agree with you , allow me to elaborate my idea more .


Our culture tends to equate attractiveness first and foremost with physical appearance. The Beauty Trap, physical appearance is undeniably part of the total attractiveness equation. But it is not the entire picture. Your manner, your outlook, the way you engage people can be just as important as what you look like.
Think about that average-looking person you know who always seems to captivate members of the opposite sex with a sparkling, winning way. Or think about the physically stunning people you've met who turn hideously unattractive once you glimpse a negative disposition or unfriendly attitude.

Beyond the Physical focus on your often neglected inner self. When it comes to finding lasting love, i think it takes more than just a new hairstyle or sassy outfit. focus on increasing your appeal from the inside out! Personal growth is always a good thing. Personal transformation and evolution are things we can and should aspire to, since none of us will ever be perfect.

Insecurity is never appealing. Confidence is attractive. People prefer to be around individuals who are comfortable with who they are and like themselves. After all, no one enjoys hearing people put themselves down.

Passion is attractive. Living your life with purpose and intention is always more appealing than the alternative. We all know too many people who just drift through life, never showing much passion for anything. Conversely, people who love what they do and do what they love tend to be extremely alluring.

Expressing yourself is attractive. Consider how charming and appealing good conversationalists are. They tend to be the most popular people in any room. They make us feel good about ourselves. They engage us. They seem to always know just the right thing to say that will break the tension or make people laugh. Communication is truly an art. And research shows that good communication skills are learned not inherent.

What can you do to evoke "pleasure or delight" in someone else? Tuning into others is attractive. There is no better way to do this than by listening intently and showing genuine interest in another person. This is a very powerful tactic that is often neglected. We can all work on our listening skills, and doing so can really affect how we are perceived by the opposite sex.

Optimism is attractive. no one likes to be around negative people They just aren't very attractive.

Plagiarism is NOT attractive :P
http://jabeh143.wordpress.com/2008/0...ttractive-you/

[Danny Z]

Originally Posted by terror

Plagiarism is NOT attractive :P
http://jabeh143.wordpress.com/2008/0...ttractive-you/

stop taking people's idea from this forum and post them on eharmony dating website, at least when you post them, mention your source.

[False Morel]

Originally Posted by Xena

i think the first rule of attractiveness is self confidence and showing a high self esteem!

aha

Originally Posted by Xena

2nd rule is being yourself and putting an emphasize on the part of your personality that the people you're with might appreciate the most! in order to do that, you need to do a lot of listening at first!

aha aha.. well, to do that you definetly need much self-esteem!
PS: frank highlighted part; devilish bolded part >> sad conclusion

Originally Posted by Xena

and it depends on the people you're with actually!

hmm.. the exclamation mark just fits in there :P

Originally Posted by Xena

it's about being natural, spontaneous, positive, and happy..etc..

ok i got it now:
natural: to be deceitful
spontaneous: to listen, analyze, and come up with the trick as quickly as possible
positive: to act smart, not to criticize, only flatter (always works as part of the trick)
happy: to delude the victim from what's really goin on
etc... : enough hints.. it's a public forum after all and many friends are reading as well

Originally Posted by Xena

and true that the way people look doesn't play a big role, since sometimes you're attracted to some people even though they don't really look good! but the way they talk, their voice, their whole presence, their knowledge, sense of humor, the way they look at you; their manners, the way they treat you... it's all charming!

rhetorical happy ending..

so, 10x god there's no third rule; unless ...

Originally Posted by terror

Plagiarism is NOT attractive :P

neither is denigration

Originally Posted by Danny Z

stop taking people's idea from this forum and post them on eharmony dating website, at least when you post them, mention your source.

and neither are the smarty pants :P

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PS: Coralie shou beke mish 3am tla72i threads, 4 threads in 4 hours :S
you broke Om's record i guess

[Dalzi]

Personality
Intelligence
Good looks

Three in one.

[False Morel]

Originally Posted by Dalzi

Personality
Intelligence
Good looks

Three in one.

and you're the one, i guess?

[Xena]

Originally Posted by der FPBer

aha



aha aha.. well, to do that you definetly need much self-esteem!
PS: frank highlighted part; devilish bolded part >> sad conclusion



hmm.. the exclamation mark just fits in there :P



ok i got it now:
natural: to be deceitful
spontaneous: to listen, analyze, and come up with the trick as quickly as possible
positive: to act smart, not to criticize, only flatter (always works as part of the trick)
happy: to delude the victim from what's really goin on
etc... : enough hints.. it's a public forum after all and many friends are reading as well



rhetorical happy ending..

so, 10x god there's no third rule; unless ...

loooooooooool you got me! :p:p:p
be more discreet next time! not everyone can see through this!
but still it's not about being deceitful, because i wont be trying to be someone i'm not! i'd be only showing what they like
hala2 come on!!! don't you all do this???!!!!

ok i ll be honest...confidence and self esteem are for intimidation, make them feel they're privileged when you give them attention.
natural and spontaneous make you sound more credible
positive and happy are for setting a good atmosphere and making your prey feel at ease and comfortable...and therefore easy to hunt.