attractiveness

[coralie]

Let's be honest. Everybody wants to be considered attractive - especially when you're on the market and trying to find that special someone. On some level, every single person equates attractiveness with more options, better opportunities and, ultimately, greater dating success.

what's really at the heart of attractiveness? Is it objective or subjective? Are there ways to enhance your attractiveness, or are you stuck with what you've got?
is it just a physical beauty, physical appearance? beyond physical, is it the inner self beauty ?
what do you think are the ingredients that can make an attractive person ?

[JulesK]

Personally, the best ingredient to being attractive is being comfy and relaxed in your own skin, not doing things you don't want to just to get some attention.
Once you start liking who you are, how you look like, how you deal with things, it'll show in your personality and make you more at ease.
I relate personal satisfaction with who you are directly to attractiveness.

[coralie]

Originally Posted by JulesK

Personally, the best ingredient to being attractive is being comfy and relaxed in your own skin, not doing things you don't want to just to get some attention.
Once you start liking who you are, how you look like, how you deal with things, it'll show in your personality and make you more at ease.
I relate personal satisfaction with who you are directly to attractiveness.

thank you JulesK i agree with you , allow me to elaborate my idea more .


Our culture tends to equate attractiveness first and foremost with physical appearance. The Beauty Trap, physical appearance is undeniably part of the total attractiveness equation. But it is not the entire picture. Your manner, your outlook, the way you engage people can be just as important as what you look like.
Think about that average-looking person you know who always seems to captivate members of the opposite sex with a sparkling, winning way. Or think about the physically stunning people you've met who turn hideously unattractive once you glimpse a negative disposition or unfriendly attitude.

Beyond the Physical focus on your often neglected inner self. When it comes to finding lasting love, i think it takes more than just a new hairstyle or sassy outfit. focus on increasing your appeal from the inside out! Personal growth is always a good thing. Personal transformation and evolution are things we can and should aspire to, since none of us will ever be perfect.

Insecurity is never appealing. Confidence is attractive. People prefer to be around individuals who are comfortable with who they are and like themselves. After all, no one enjoys hearing people put themselves down.

Passion is attractive. Living your life with purpose and intention is always more appealing than the alternative. We all know too many people who just drift through life, never showing much passion for anything. Conversely, people who love what they do and do what they love tend to be extremely alluring.

Expressing yourself is attractive. Consider how charming and appealing good conversationalists are. They tend to be the most popular people in any room. They make us feel good about ourselves. They engage us. They seem to always know just the right thing to say that will break the tension or make people laugh. Communication is truly an art. And research shows that good communication skills are learned not inherent.

What can you do to evoke "pleasure or delight" in someone else? Tuning into others is attractive. There is no better way to do this than by listening intently and showing genuine interest in another person. This is a very powerful tactic that is often neglected. We can all work on our listening skills, and doing so can really affect how we are perceived by the opposite sex.

Optimism is attractive. no one likes to be around negative people They just aren't very attractive.

[supersonichadi]

Originally Posted by coralie

Let's be honest. Everybody wants to be considered attractive - especially when you're on the market and trying to find that special someone. On some level, every single person equates attractiveness with more options, better opportunities and, ultimately, greater dating success.

what's really at the heart of attractiveness? Is it objective or subjective? Are there ways to enhance your attractiveness, or are you stuck with what you've got?
is it just a physical beauty, physical appearance? beyond physical, is it the inner self beauty ?
what do you think are the ingredients that can make an attractive person ?

Improve your tongue, talking is the best way you can attract people with it.

[Xena]

i think the first rule of attractiveness is self confidence and showing a high self esteem!
2nd rule is being yourself and putting an emphasize on the part of your personality that the people you're with might appreciate the most! in order to do that, you need to do a lot of listening at first!

it's about being natural, spontaneous, positive, and happy..etc.. and it depends on the people you're with actually!

and true that the way people look doesn't play a big role, since sometimes you're attracted to some people even though they don't really look good! but the way they talk, their voice, their whole presence, their knowledge, sense of humor, the way they look at you; their manners, the way they treat you... it's all charming!

[Nayla]

Originally Posted by coralie

thank you JulesK i agree with you , allow me to elaborate my idea more .


Our culture tends to equate attractiveness first and foremost with physical appearance. The Beauty Trap, physical appearance is undeniably part of the total attractiveness equation. But it is not the entire picture. Your manner, your outlook, the way you engage people can be just as important as what you look like.
Think about that average-looking person you know who always seems to captivate members of the opposite sex with a sparkling, winning way. Or think about the physically stunning people you've met who turn hideously unattractive once you glimpse a negative disposition or unfriendly attitude.

Beyond the Physical focus on your often neglected inner self. When it comes to finding lasting love, i think it takes more than just a new hairstyle or sassy outfit. focus on increasing your appeal from the inside out! Personal growth is always a good thing. Personal transformation and evolution are things we can and should aspire to, since none of us will ever be perfect.

Insecurity is never appealing. Confidence is attractive. People prefer to be around individuals who are comfortable with who they are and like themselves. After all, no one enjoys hearing people put themselves down.

Passion is attractive. Living your life with purpose and intention is always more appealing than the alternative. We all know too many people who just drift through life, never showing much passion for anything. Conversely, people who love what they do and do what they love tend to be extremely alluring.

Expressing yourself is attractive. Consider how charming and appealing good conversationalists are. They tend to be the most popular people in any room. They make us feel good about ourselves. They engage us. They seem to always know just the right thing to say that will break the tension or make people laugh. Communication is truly an art. And research shows that good communication skills are learned not inherent.

What can you do to evoke "pleasure or delight" in someone else? Tuning into others is attractive. There is no better way to do this than by listening intently and showing genuine interest in another person. This is a very powerful tactic that is often neglected. We can all work on our listening skills, and doing so can really affect how we are perceived by the opposite sex.

Optimism is attractive. no one likes to be around negative people They just aren't very attractive.

Where is the thank u button?
Well said dear

[Nayla]

Originally Posted by supersonichadi

Improve your tongue, talking is the best way you can attract people with it.

Any kind of talking?
Sure not.
I think u mean the useful talking not the bla bla, ma hek?

[supersonichadi]

Originally Posted by Nayla H

Any kind of talking?
Sure not.
I think u mean the useful talking not the bla bla, ma hek?

Ano of course, plus try to be 'mahdoom' as can as you could

[JulesK]

Originally Posted by supersonichadi

Ano of course, plus try to be 'mahdoom' as can as you could

Trok el hadame la s7aba
W ra7 etreklak el na2 (football games ring a bell?)

[coralie]

Originally Posted by supersonichadi

Improve your tongue, talking is the best way you can attract people with it.

you mean this ? and i will quote my previous post : Expressing yourself is attractive. Consider how charming and appealing good conversationalists are. They tend to be the most popular people in any room. They make us feel good about ourselves. They engage us. They seem to always know just the right thing to say that will break the tension or make people laugh. Communication is truly an art. And research shows that good communication skills are learned not inherent.