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Originally Posted by Boris  i tried to have an agreement with my girlfriend, saying that i can do whatever i want and she would trust me, and she can do whatever she wants and i trust her...
it ended up me not caring about our relationship neither about her, (from her point of view if i wasn't jealous it means i don't care about us) because i told her go do anything she wants and whatever she feels is right,
now she does everything she wants, talks to guys take their numbers chat go out in groups, play together etc... and i don't give a d*mn, she can do whatever she wants with them im not a police officer nor a teacher to shout at her or get mad at everything she does, she's totally free, but...
on the other hand if i talk to a girl hell breaks loose, if i take the number of a girl classmate to ask her about homeworks and stuff an armageddon is unleashed, if i look at a girl i get a slap or saf2et bouz kel l nhar, every time i talk to a girl means i have a crush on her...blablabla
if i wasn't 0.5/10 i think we couldn't have survived 2 years till now, but im really having a big problem with me being 0.5 and her being 9.5 and i don't know if i can really take it anymore!
is, not giving a d*mn what your gf does, means not caring about her ? anyone with the same prob ? |
well I can tell how I see and might be true for most of the girls, if the guy really doesnt care at all what the girl does, where she goes, with whom she meets etc...while in a relationship, well then the guy certainly is not that attached to the girl, probably doesnt love her.
A certain level of jealousy is ok, you just dont need to overdo it. Its all about trust, if you can trust one other then one doesnt need to worry every minute what the other does, talk or think etc..
For me it seems the girl you are talking about has serious possessing tendencies toward you, well this is something also one shall avoid to feel like owning the other and being owned, because it kills love.
Why dont you demand equality with your gf? If she wants to control you you can control her too...or the total freedom shall be reciprocal, or? But I dont see the meaning of total freedom in a relationship, because you are either totally free and independent single or you have a partner to take into consideration.