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Originally Posted by Stella

So you think its perfectly normal to seek only one night stands deliberately /and not because there is no other option/ constantly?

Well Stella, it depends on why is someone seeking a one night stand. You are saying here that maybe because they feel lonely, well I see it differently, I say because simply they feel some sexual attraction / desire for someone and would like to fulfill that desire. When its over in the morning if that attraction is still there, they might try another night stand, if not then they leave each in his/her way. You see the goal was sexual pleasure or at least that is how I see it. Not because of lonliness, not because of anything else.

Originally Posted by Stella

For me that sounds a brand new world where the youngs and olds alike are interested only in fullfilling some quick desires. This threatens with the disappearing of any tenderness and deep feelings of a relationship, dont you think that way people would grow just colder in their feelings, and become just more selfish?


Yes we dont have statistics, I have just a feeling that they may be the minority for now, but what worries me, that what if they are in growing number?
Lets not mix here religion, you shall know I am not defending here any religious dogmas. I am talking about human relations, about the wondeful feeling of being with someone, and not just for one night, but discovering the other etc...

Well not necessarly, as IMO the desire for sex is independant from the desire to love or other desires. Maybe if love existed in that person's life, they would not do such a thing, but that does not mean that because Love is not their they will, and this does not threaten love and committment relationships in anyway, because the main drive for long term relationships is not only sex IMO and thus there is no comparison nor danger from one night stands to the concept of commitment.

Originally Posted by Stella

But tell me, would you like to see them becoming a majority ie people looking for short relations/one night stands, being interested in selfish desire fullfilling only? Where would that lead to? How would it shape the society, and the basic patterns of human relations?

No I would not put it like that, its not about whether I would like it or not, its more like I don't mind if it does, adults are free with what they wish to do and as long as both are willing to take it to a one night stand, I do not mind at all, as long as they both feel good about it, why should I be bothered.

I don't see it would affect the society in a negative way, being a liberal myself, I think it would help people break away from the chains drawn by society on them, and lead them to really do what they want without being chained by rules that do not serve their interests.